I am sorry you a now on this path. 3 weeks is very early. I’m 9 months on this path (40 weeks tomorrow). Just focus on the basics to start with, they seem hard, eating, drinking water ( you will be dehydrated, if you are crying a lot) and sleeping. I know these can be hard.
Remember this is your grief journey, so do what feels right for you, duvet day, cleaning. If you have support please use it.
Just take it one step at a time. I am sorry there is no magic wand or bullet. What might work for one, might not work for the other. Please look after yourself, if you need to rant or ramble, do so it helps and I’m afraid we will understand.
Thank you so much for your reply. It made me feel less lonely knowing you care enough to take the time to respond.
A few hours later I feel a bit calmer, but I also know that that I have to prepare for the next wave of grief that will hit me a the most unexpected moments…
It’s so hard. I’m here trying to iron a shirt for a memorial service on Sunday, crying my eyes out. Every time I do things that remind me of her, sets me off.
A friend sent me this song a while ago that describes what we are going through
Just try to get through each day for now. That is more than enough. It will ease but will take a long time. Try to keep busy even if it’s just going a few simple tasks each day.
Look after your own wellbeing like others have mentioned. Eat and rest when you feel like doing so
Cry whenever you need to and take as much help from family and friends as you can.
It’s a horrible horrible time but this site is a lifeline and you are amongst people on here who truly understand
Good morning. I lost my husband few months ago. Dont be so hard on yourself you lost your closest part. I was with mine from 16- now 67. How do you not feel it, you do its ok. I can tell you my faith in Jesus is who keeps me. He knows I dont like it. I sob all the time but he provides a comfort. I read and pray. At times i sit to but just cry, he knows. I wont give cliche’s to you. But to just live in the day this day . If u have family just go sit even if u dont talk. Force yourself to do little things u like. I pray Gods strength and mercy on you moment by moment.
I know exactly how you feel as my beloved husband died 5 weeks ago and the grief is paralysing. I was staying in our flat all the time as the thought of going out and seeing people laughing and joking was too much, but slowly I’ve started to go out. I’m determined to rebuild my life again. I’m also going to see a grief counsellor soon. I hope you do the same. There are lots of other people like us, but at first, it seems we are totally alone. Take care.
I lost my husband of 32 years 14 weeks ago. It was sudden and devastating. I feel what you are going through. Actually it is getting worse for me. First with the funeral planning, messages, gifts and cards I felt supported but now that has worn off and the loneliness of it all has taken over. Your grief is so raw as it is for most of us here. It’s ok that we cry every day, have no motivation to do anything just let it flow the way it wants too. Grief is huge and unfair, but we will get through it. Hugs to you