Lost & lonely

Losing a partner
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I am broken :disappointed: my heart is shattered into a million pieces and endless tears have fallen. I lost the love of my life on the 20th January. I feel so lost & lonely. I miss him so so much. I just wish he had taken me with him. I can’t live without him. Will this pain ever go away? Everyone else is going about their lives but mine has stopped… I just exist. I love him so much and can’t see my life without him.

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So sorry for your loss

It’s very early and still very raw
Hardest thing to accept is life goes on - you expect there to be a pause button while you get your head around things, but there isn’t

People mourn and pay their respects, but then they go home and carry on with their lives - ours have changed forever

There’s no easy answers or playbook unfortunately

I hope you have some support structure during this first difficult part

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I feel just the same. I lost my Karen only Monday but I have been grieving since September when she was given her terminal diagnosis. I might feel differently if we had been older, she was only 60. Staying strong for the children but everything else does seem meaningless

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I can’t envisage the pain and sadness of losing the love of your life ever leaving us but maybe we can try to get acceptance eventually. Not sure how long that will take so in the meantime it is just existence.

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It is so painful, he was only 56 and we had made so many plans. I don’t think I will ever come to terms with it, I feel robbed of all our dreams and the memories that we will never have

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I know, my Karen was so looking forward to being a grandmother one day.It is so heartbreaking. She has even wrapped a present to be given to her first grandchild.

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Awww…… that is beautiful. I’m sure her grandchildren to be will know all about her, you will make sure of that! It’s so unfair

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So sorry for your loss.
Sending big hugs & Strength
X

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It’s just coming up to twelve weeks since my partner passed away and because I don’t have any friends or family to talk to the loneliness is the thing I’m struggling with we were together for 30 years and this is the first time I’ve been on my own I miss Ann so much I’m not sure if I can carry on without her twice I’ve been admitted to the mental health hospital until you have a partner who passes away you will never understand loneliness I’m just hoping one day soon I will join Ann

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I have friends and family around me but still feel so lonely without my soul mate. Chatting on here to people in the same situation seems to help

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So sorry for your loss. It’s very early days; just try and rest when you can. Sleep helps, but I know it’s virtually impossible in the first few weeks.

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I’ve spent the last 4 years supporting my Bridget while she was in a care home with dementia. Sadly she died in September 2023.

Now I’m ill myself and this increases the feeling of loss. She struggled so much and never really made a fuss. So strong. Not like me who cries at the slightest view of her photo. I miss her so much and realise now that too much was taken for granted. Never do this. Try to treasure more moments

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So sorry for your loss. It’s still early days so please try to take one day at a time. I can resonate with what you’re going through. The feeling of loneliness is something that all of us who lost our loved ones struggle with. Now over 9 months in, I still struggle with the emptiness, sadness and loneliness but the best I can do is take one day at a time, every single day I miss him so much.
I talk to him every day, morning, afternoon and night which I find so soothing in doing so. I hope he will be there to greet me when I join him one day.
Please take care and be reassured that we understand what you are going through and please keep sharing we are here to listen and support each other always.
Sending hugs & strength x

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