Lost my brother

I lost my brother in Oct and as time goes on I’m finding it harder to cope with.
I found him and cannot seem to get the image of him out of my head. He was disabled and I helped him plus my mum & Dad.They are finding it hard because they couldn’t get to see him because my dad has been poorly.Since covid my dad has had a kidney removed with cancer and now has cancer on his lungs.He has been very poorly and in and out of hospital, even had his 80th birthday in there.
I’m trying to cope with the grief and look after my Parents at the same time.My life just seems to be on a roller coaster of emotions.
I can’t see my daughter and grandchildren because they are isolating.
I’m trying to be strong for everyone but finding it so hard to deal with

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Dear Deb

Welcome to the Community. I am so sorry for your loss. I apologise for the delay in replying.

You are going through a lot and I would like to guide you to several organisations for you and your parents which may be of help to you.

Child Bereavement UK supports families with the loss of a child - http://www.childbereavementuk.org

The Compassionate Friends is for families who have lost a child of any age -https://www.tcf.org.uk/

Cruse Bereavement offers a helpline, email support, counselling, and support groups through their local services -

I hope these organisations will be of help to you. There are topics on here also on Losing a Sibling/Brother which will connect you to Community Members who have been in a similar situation as yourself.

Take care.

Thank you for your reply, since writing this post my dad passed away christmas eve and today my mum got took in hospital with a heart attack

Hi @DebD,

I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad and that your Mum is now in hospital following a heart attack. That is so hard - things must feel overwhelming at the moment. Do you have people around you who can support you? I really hope you are now able to see your Daughter and Grandchildren.

Please know, you do not need to struggle alone - if you would like details of other organisations who may also be able to help, either at this time or down the line, please do let us know either on here or by emailing online.community@sueryder.org.

Take care of yourself - keep reaching out,

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Thank you Megan I do feel overwhelmed. My husband is very good but I do miss having someone to talk to.
I speak to some of my family on Skype but it’s not the same has having them close.
I’m trying to keep strong for my mum & family.This week is so hard because I’m helping my mum sort the funeral out and have recieved the death certificate.