Lost my dad 28yrs ago - and the pain feels worse now

I lost my dad when I was 14yrs old in 1995…
I don’t feel I coped well then, she met a new partner 4yrs later and I had a hard time accepting but managed to put it all in a box and felt I was ok…
they split a few years ago and she has now recently met a new partner… this has somehow brought every feeling back that I thought I had stored away or coped with then… I feel worse than ever and cheated that my dad died when I was young I just feel like I’m constantly crying and I don’t know why this is suddenly happening.
I don’t have any sibling who went through the same situation with me I just feel awful

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I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad, @Power, and at such a young age, too. We know that the way society treats grief - especially grief in children - has changed a lot in the past 30 years. Thankfully, there is now a recognition of the profound impact the loss of a parent can have on a child. You say you feel cheated, and it is completely understandable that you are feeling that way. You are not alone.

Are you getting any support with your grief? If you’re interested in counselling, we offer free sessions at Sue Ryder. You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area. Many of our members have sadly experienced the loss of a parent, too - hopefully someone will be along to share their thoughts.

Take good care,

Hi @Power ,
Sorry to hear you are struggling with these feelings, to loose a much loved parent so young must be tough, your mom meeting someone new must bring up a lot of thoughts & memories. Sending hugs of support.