Lost my dad / not sure how to be confident about my life

Hi, I lost my dad a few years ago. He was the only person in my life I could depend on with practical things. We had a lot of solidarity between us. My mum and siblings are not loyal and did nothing at a time when I became homeless after escaping domestic abuse and violence. My dad, had he been alive, would not have let me be unsafe. I now live in a women’s refuge. I really miss my dad. I do not feel strong about things like business and how to put back together my life again. I had my dad for that. I miss him so much. I feel like I have no one to count on when it comes to my survival as well as independence and vision for my life. And that is really scary. I am scared right now and crying. I feel I need him to talk to. I don’t know if I am strong enough to see the course of my life and be able to rebuild it feeling like I know what I am doing. I have no safety net. It feels so vulnerable and lost. Can anyone relate. Much love and blessings xx

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Hello @BearHugs,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your dad that brings you here, and the difficult situation you are currently in.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Dear Alex,

Thank you so much for your reply. I truly appreciate it.

I just received an email from Sue Ryder stating that I was sent an email with options for assessment dates but had not made any bookings and that I am being discharged from your services.

I have not received any email with options for an assessment. My emails from you are on the 7th of August, to confirm my account with you and a grief guide. I just replied to the email explaining that I had not received the options for attending an assessment, and I received the same response email: that I had not replied to booking options and that you are terminating your services.

Please help! I do not know what to do because I surely need your services and am in need of counselling and would have definitely liked to join any chance for an assessment!

I gratefully await your reply.

Hello @BearHugs,

I’m really sorry to hear you’re having trouble accessing the counselling service.

The Online Bereavement Community is a separate service to our Online Counselling so we’re unable to investigate issues relating to it.

I’m going to share this thread and your details with our counselling team as they would be best placed to look into this for you.

You may also want to explore counselling from Cruse Bereavement Support, or ask your GP to refer you to local services. You might also find the AtALoss website helpful. If you select your area, you can see what options are available to you. I really hope you find the support you need, and the community is here for you too.

Take good care,

Hello Seaneen,

Thank you so much for forwarding this issue of not being able to book an assessment.

I have as a result now been emailed a booking link and have booked my assessment for the 2nd of October.

I am really grateful for your help and am glad I am getting an opportunity from Sue Ryder. Thank you as well for your other suggestions.

Hope you have a lovely day.

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Great to hear you got sorted, @BearHugs - I really hope you find counselling to be helpful :blue_heart: