I’m new here I recently lost my Dad, he was 59 and I am 29. I was close to my dad however since my nan died 2 years ago my dad went into a deep depression I couldn’t get him out of, he ended up being sectioned and then having a cardiac arrest leaving him physically and mentally disabled I often thought to myself he would be better off out, but now that he’s not here I don’t know how I feel about it. I’m grieving my dad that I had 2 years ago, not the man I knew for the past two years which makes it all that more confusing. Do any of you know of bereavement groups that you can attend in person I know this is something that can help me? Anyway, we’re all here because we lost some one sending lots of love to you all
Dear Gemma carry on having good thoughts about your father.
Sleep well tonight.
I’m very sorry for your loss. My dad died 2 years ago, aged 66. Like your dad he never got over the death of his mum and when I was 16 he developed depression and schizophrenia. He made good recovery years later but was not the man he once was. I struggled with depression and anxiety and my counsellor made me realise I was grieving for the man my dad was. However when I actually lost my dad the grief was like nothing I’d ever felt before. It will get easier with time Gemma xxx
Was really nice to read your message, there’s loads of people who have lost their dads however I find it hard to find someone who lost their dad due to their dad mental health and not getting over the loss of their mum so I appreciate your message so much and I am sorry for what you would have gone through with your dad too xx I feel really guilty I couldn’t fix him x