Lost my husband

Losing a partner
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Hi i lost my husband in August, he was 54 covid got him, im having to be strong for my 10yr old son hes grieving too, people say if you need anything but i do t want to feel like a burden

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I’m so sorry to hear that, he as young. I lost my husband back in February and eventually you start to deal with it but nothing really takes the pain away. If people offer you help you should take it. My kids are grown up but children do deal with the loss differently but you need to think about yourself as well. Talking to people on here helps, I found. Take care.

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Yes I am the same as you not like to ask either.
Wish they would kinda know but of course not like that. I got so desperate wanting grass cut although on reflection as if that mattered. Felt was done but no real feeling pleased to do so. When asked my family only so much and seemed my brother just told my son so wished had not said anything. People wanted me to do what they said and I wanted to be in control. It has to be when they can. I had used up the favours so couldn’t ask anymore. Felt everyone is busy. If I didn’t immediately jump to it when offer was there it seemed to not be there then. No good all at same time. Think people get tired and so I struggled on. I do not know how some people seem to manage to get lot support. When it happened to me soon happened to everyone else as well so felt I had to leave everyone free to help others. Silly I guess isn’t it? People offer what they think you need only it isn’t what you really need when you need it. Say come for a coffee but I didn’t want any of that nor go to such and such a group like it is ok not to be ok when I didn’t want to go to a group. Hated pressure. Like something wrong with me if I do not want to be with other people and just want to go for a walk when I can.
I found local dogs were really the most knowing just came over so I could pet them
But no one wanted me to walk their dog which I really wanted. But you will be ok somehow gradually sometimes one step forward two steps back sometimes. Hope you find a friend to help with you. :pray: You do. Keep writing on here.

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