Lost my son

Losing a child
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I lost my son aged 27 last week. He passed suddenly and we dont kno why. Toxicology was all good bjt may take up to three months.
He was my youngest son of two and i shudnt say but my favourite.
I am bereft and dont kno how to cope. He had just got engaged and was so happy in all aspects. So unfair.

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@Ruby3

I’m so sorry for your loss .
I lost my son 9 weeks ago so understand how you are feeling .

You will still be in shock and disbelief and it must be so hard as you don’t know why he died.

Take it day by day and don’t expect too much of yourself . Try to get some fresh air if you can .

I hope you have good support around you .

Use this forum when you need to . Someone will always answer .

Take care

xx

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Thank you x

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Hi ruby,I lost my boy November last year to a brain tumor :sob: every day I cry,everyday I look to the heavens and talk too him,I have so many unanswered questions that I guess will never be answered,I don’t no the cure for grief but I do no that as long as we remember they are never forgotten,stay strong,live life and talk , look after yourself and take care x

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I was phoning my son as I always did every Saturday afternoon and wondering why he didn’t pick up. Then the police were at the door and told me my darling boy had been found dead by his landlord. So sudden, so unexpected. There was an autopsy, he’d had a massive heart attack. I miss him every day and always will. Time passes but the pain remains.

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Frankie2 so sorryfor your sudden loss.
I dont think i will ever be free from pain.
I hope you have support and please message if you need anything. I have found this community very comforting x

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The pain will remain but the suffering will ease :heart:

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Thank you Tilly x

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How are you doing @Ruby3 ?

xx

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Thanks for asking, up and down but more down.
Not crying as much but silly things set me off.
Hate waking up and the mornings are the worst.
Have been out for a dog walk and fresh air is good. Love just sitting watch rubbish tv, feels like im in a cocoon. X
How are you doing?

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I think last thing at night and first thing in the morning are the worst.

I am also not crying as much which makes me feel guilty!.

Doing the same as you to be honest . A short walk every day (no energy so can’t go far) and then mindless TV just for a temporary distraction .
I suppose we never know how we are going to be from one day to the next .

I’ve avoided seeing people as I just can’t cope with it .

Take care

xx

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Dont feel guilty about crying less as i say to nyself its my body saying ur coping a little bit morr each day. Cry wen u want.
Fresh air helps and i feel shattered wen i get home.
I spoke to Cruse who were amazing, not sure if you have tried them.
Keep in touch x

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Hi Tilly

How are you doing?

I just drove to the post office and was crying uncontrollably on the way back.
Dont want to do notmal things.

Do you?

Take care

Ruby13

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Hi @Ruby3

I’m sorry you got so upset but it’s perfectly natural for anyone in this horrendous situation .

No I absolutely do not want to do ‘normal ‘ things because there is no normal now . Normal has gone . It went the day my child did .

We have to somehow adapt to this awful new normal we find ourselves in and I’m not sure how we do that .

I hope the rest of your day is peaceful

xx

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No i dont know either and i am scared of myself being a blubbering mess in public.

Haopy in my home in front of tv where i feel safe.

Thank you, hope you too have a peaceful day.

X

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Ive not attempted to drive yet, since the funeral , im crying every few minutes, 5 weeks since ive drove, cooked or washed up think my husband is finding it frustrating.

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In the grand scheme of things what’s it matter if there’s things you don’t feel up to yet sod it taff you do what feels right for you.

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Keep strong taff,cry if you want to,I do every day if people don’t understand then f@@k em,keep hold of those memories and smile,god bless

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Taff u do what you need to, sod everyone else my love.
We are individuals. Your entitled to grieve hoelw and as long as u need.

Xx

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Hi I lost my 17yr old son over two years ago I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn’t only you can get stronger to cope with it.i cope by believing we will be together again.i believe the pain we feel when hearing that we have lost a child is a piece of our soul being torn from us and going to our lost child so that they will always have a peice of us with them and when the time comes we can find each other again.thats how I can carry on I truly hope with all my heart you find a way to carry on we have to live to remember them X

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