Lost of wife

A few days ago I lost my wife to cancer. I have two young boys. I’m struggling with my emotions. But my boys are carrying on like nothing happen. Is this normal.

@Mike3 I’m sorry you have lost your wife, your young children must have been an extra burden for you both. I don’t know how old your children are, but it is possible they do not fully understand the enormity of what has just happen and you will see their grief emerge in the coming weeks and months. Hopefully someone who is in a similar situation will see and comment on your post

Hi @Mike3

It’s very difficult isn’t it. My 9 year old son has carried on as normal. At first I found his cheeriness painful. But it was explained to me that they process things very differently. I’m not sure how old your children are,but it can take years for them to develop their emotional ability to then talk and deal with it.

It’s been 4 weeks since I lost my partner of 20 years, and I now find my son a strength. He will search me out when he hears me crying and give a big hug, and has become a pillar of strength.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

Merrin x

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I am so sorry for your loss. Children react in different ways and at different times. Winston’s Wish has some good information and things to help when you need it.

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