I lost my partner 2 weeks ago, I Found him in his flat , he had already passed away , we did absolutely everything together, I feel like I can’t cope without him , I feel lost and very lonely, he was only 42 , we had all our future planned out together.
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Dear @Ward
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your partner. There are no words to describe the pain of losing your partner. They leave a big hole in our lives.
There is ablog by Sue Ryder Losing a Partner , it may be of help to you along with the following resources. The Grief Coach may especially be of help to you.
- The self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief Grief Guide
- Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS. This service is also useful for family and friends
- Information on the Stages of Grief
- Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
After 2 months of being bereaved you could consider using the Sue Ryder Counselling which is held via video chat ? It might be helpful to have a look at their website in the meantime for information.
There is an organisation called AtALoss which helps bereaved people find support and well-being. It may well be worth you taking a look at the website for support. You can also enter your location on the website to see if there are any support groups in your area.
You need to take one day at a time and be gentle with yourself. You are in the early stages of bereavement which is raw and painful. We the Community are here for you, you are not alone, we understand the pain of losing a loved one. Keep talking to us here. Take care of yourself.
Peppers xx
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I lost my partner suddenly too. Like you we had plans for our life together. It is so very early for you, too early to try and think straight or anything. Take each hour at a time, cry when you need to and take comfort from those around you. Do not be hard on yourself, lie in bed, doze on the sofa, do whatever you feel like doing. Nobody can tell you how to be or what to feel, only you can get through this.
Read the positive messages on here, try and take comfort that you are not alone, we understand your pain and stand with you. Take care of yourself as you too are precious. X
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Thank you for your message, I’m finding it so difficult to come to terms with everything , it’s so unfair to have his life taken away at 42 years old, we haven’t had his funeral yet , as they can’t find a course of death, I’m dreading the day of his funeral , it’s going to be the hardest day of my life , thank you for your kind words xx
It must have been a terrible for you to find him like that. You are still in shock and it’s the hardest time for you . It’s best to be kind to yourself and do what you want . Grief has no rules . Take any help
You can get . I’m so sorry
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