I lost my sister mid-June this year, the details around the cause of death are unclear. Unfortunately she was a drug user but it is not clear exactly how she died as others were present and all we have been told is that it was ‘drug related’. Some people will perhaps stop reading at this point as they may not fully understand what an people goes through. I am finding it difficult to get to grips with. My sister took some wrong turns in her last chapter from 48 to death at 57. Prior to this she had what I believe most people would term as a ‘normal life’. The death was unexpected and sudden. The day after she died I started a brand new job and have been for the last 3 weeks engrossed in this, it was only this weekend that I felt so tired and sick that today I have had to tell my new boss that I need some time to grieve. I guess the fact that I left a very long term job before my sister died and also moved house (well infact country!) does not help matters, I read somewhere that you can suffer grief from those two aspects of your life too, so I guess I have a triple grief situation going on in my life. I could not get out of bed this morning to go to work, the thought of speaking to people or even emailing anyone made me feel physically sick. My very supportive wife has gone off to work and left me to be by myself (my wish) I am not turning to alcohol or the like to mask things, just burying my head in cups of tea and writing this! I hope I can heal soon and lose this feeling of sickness…
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your sister that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.