It’s four months now…this does not seem to get easier. I think the finality, is gradually beginning to engulf me. The thought of carrying on without my husband is so unbearable…
I would live to hear from any one who has any good advice.
Thank you.
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@Elvispresley69 I don’t have any advice because this past week or so I am experiencing the same pain. My John died ten weeks ago. The fact that I realise he is never coming home has really set me back. I was obviously in denial. You are not alone although I know that our grief is very personal. Knowing others feel as bad doesn’t really help. Take care.
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Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. Many people find that grief is at its worst after a few months, so you’re not alone. @Johnswife is correct that it doesn’t make you feel any better that others are feeling just as bad as you are, what it does do is just make you realise that there isn’t anything wrong with you, that you’re not the only one suffering from this. Really hope everyone is having a better day today.
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I have no advice to help you through this. I lost my June 10 weeks ago and am having a verydifficult week. I’m now thinking that I don’t want to be over this, get through, move on. Knowing that others are in the same position doesn’t really help at the moment - realising so many people are in such pain.
Take care
D
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Hi Elvis Presley, I’m four months in and feel just as you do, certainly worse and not better. And this feels so wrong doesn’t it, surely as each day passes it should become easier? But I think that’s trying to apply logic to something that defies all reason and our grieving is following its own random pattern, suffering overload. And, of course, we’re all grieving under the most unimaginable circumstances at the moment so we’re stuck and have no control over our lives. I know nothing can make us feel any better but I do find it reassuring that others are feeling the same. And Tiil we meet again. I’m full of admiration for you and wish I could be strong like that. I always was strong but that was because I had Malcolm by my side, now I hardly recognise myself. All I do is put on a cheerful front for friends and family then cry on my own. So much to do and can’t be bothered with any of it. Let’s hope our hopelessness starts to pass off some day soon. Love to all x
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