Lost

Losing a parent
#1

Lost my mum on 24 march buried her ashes on 13july I’m now on my own as mum was the last member of my family looked after and cared for mum went every day now she’s gone feel redundant no purpose in life and in so much pain And guilt what if I’d …she passed quickly no long illness just went to sleep feel cheated I didn’t get the time to say goodbye got some great friends who have stud by me and good social life even in a crowded room you feel lonely and when you come home shut the door your on your own haven’t even took condolence cards down feel like I’m stuck in a time zone

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#2

@Redrose, thank you for starting this thread and sharing your feelings. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Losing someone suddenly and not being able to say goodbye can be so difficult. The Sudden website has some resources on coping with sudden death that you might find helpful. You might also want to take a look at our:

Take good care - you are not alone.
Seaneen

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#3

Hi, sorry for the agony of your loss. I can empathise as my Mum died suddenly and unexpectedly, so I didn’t get chance to say goodbye. I did go and see her in the chapel of rest and read a letter to her, that I then put in her coffin. It’s normal to torture yourself with all the what if’s… but it doesn’t help. The only way is to move forward, even though it’s so hard. Build a simple daily routine and keep going. Our Mums didn’t want their children to suffer so it’s the only way. Over time things will become easier to manage hopefully. Take care xx

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#4

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my Dad in the 22nd July and I just don’t know how to cope with the grief

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#5

Your loss is so very recent so just take it hour by hour, day by day. Don’t have any expectations about how you should feel or what you should be doing. It’s so hard, but you will get through it. There’s a lot of helpful information online and the posts on here are supportive. Take care xx

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