I lost my husband 4 weeks ago tomorrow, I feel totally lost and empty, I’ve been staying at my mum and dads as my home feels so empty without him. Not feeling christmas at all.
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Hi @Jaynee69 , really sorry to read you are suffering, but everyone on here really understands. These first few weeks are truly dreadful, all we can do is hang on by our fingernails whilst it passes, which (unlikely so it seems) it will do. Then the next chapter of your life will start to form.
As regards xmas, its not compulsory, many on here just spend time alone with those we miss. I find the constant pressure to enjoy ourselves more than I can bear. No cards, no pressies, except for my two little canine companions.You will soon decide its time to go back home, where you can cry whenever you want, and the happy memories will start to filter back.
Hang in there, it will ease and you can be happy again, honest,!
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Sorry for your loss they say times a healer that’s not true you just have to deal with the grief as grief is love with no place to go I lost my beloved fiancé in July 2023 was sudden I wish I could bring him back but I know he’s at peace I have my memories of him and listen to his
Music as he was a DJ and done some radio stations in Plymouth uk it’s hard to except they are gone and never coming back my heart 
aches every day saddest part for me is now his family all hate me hope this group gives you some peace and support
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So sorry for youre loss i have just lost my lovley partner on th 28th of December and xant bare it i just dont know what to do x
Just take each day as it comes grief is love with no place to go it hits you in waves and bounds hold on to the memories you have and remember she is always with you they say it gets easier with time but you just have to learn to live with your grief baby steps day by time take time for yourself grieve the way you want to everyone’s grief is different I’ve literally just broken down as I wasn’t with my fiancé when he passed away x be proud that you have taken the first steps to join this group and reaching out we are all here for you x you are not alone my sincere condolences for your loss
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Sorry for your loss I lost my partner on 2nd December 23 am heartbroken and am just trying to get through each day x
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Sorry for your loss aswell they say times a healer etc I don’t think you ever get over the loss of your loved ones you just have to learn to live each day as it comes I wasn’t allowed to say goodbye as his family forbidden it so I had to do my own thing I can’t have a memorial in my garden as waiting for housing to mend my fencing etc I feel I’m grieving so badly my heart will break they say grief is love with no place to go I can’t even lay flowers as he was cremated and the ashes his kids and parents kept even though they treated him like crap so so sad just find comfort in knowing your partner will always be with you x feels his ex wife was more important then me
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