Hello
Lost my darling husband this January & the pain is unbearable. The house is so quiet now you can hear a pin drop. This morning I woke after a restless night, which is every night, and for one second I thought he was snoring next to me & then the reality hit again. The days are so long , I try and pace myself by doing little bits but he is always in my mind & then the tears come again. How do you move on? Just can’t bear it
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Hi @Mags5,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support and share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out.
Alex
So sorry @Mags5. I’m four months into this journey, and I don’t think you do move on; you just gradually grow around your grief. It’s such early days - all you can do for now is to take care of yourself, try to eat and rest, and reach out to everyone when you need to.
Hi @Mags5
So sorry for your loss.
I understand how you are feeling just now.
It has now been 9 months since my husband passed away unexpectedly and suddenly aged 63.
I cope during the day but at night like yourself i find in too quiet lonely and don’t sleep well.
But somehow i get through the days and nights i guess i survive. I still cry and i think most of us here will it helps us get through thesr hard times ahead.
I’m trying to keep busy and planning to volunteer to get me more out and meet new people.
I think when we have spent a long time with our partners 38 years for me it is hard to move on. We are just used to being a couple now a new chapter of learning to be on your own will take sometime to get used to 
Take care and look after yourself
Take any help from friends and family
Lynne Xx
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I lost my husband after 41 years of marraige. That was a year ago. Initially it is hard and you just have to go through the motions but eventually you learn to live with it. I still have bad days and the tears fall. But I don’t fight it or apologise I accept this is grief. I keep myself busy with work and friends. Accept all invites even though you won’t want to go - it opens doors fills your time. And we are always here to listen. Take care of yourself-get up showered dressed eat drink and daily walk. That’s enough for now . Sending a big hug . You are not alone we have all been there feeling as you do. X
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Sweetie I know how you feel. Except for me its the nights I cant stand. Every time I close my eyes I just see him taking his last breaths and wonder too how am I supposed to move on. For now I won’t and I suppose none of us will for a very long time. It doesn’t bring them back, alas nothing will, but there is at least some comfort knowing you aren’t alone and we are all here on the same journey. I wish you peace.
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I keep a happy picture of my husband on his pillow next to me and that helps me so much
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