My mother passed away a few weeks before my wedding earlier this year.
I was very close to her but we decided to continue with the wedding.
I have been suffering the loss ever since . Not the easiest start to a marriage for my husband.
I struggle to find enthusiasm for anything, I am not sleeping at night and don’t want to get up in the morning . I am trying to function as normally as I can - going to work, seeing my dad, putting on a front for others when inside I am broken.
My husband has become frustrated with me . He wants to plan holidays, decorating projects , life events but I can’t think beyond a day at the moment. The biggest cause or arguments is that I haven’t changed my name since I married. I just haven’t got round to focussing on the big task of trying to work out what needs to be done.
My husband has walked out the house today saying I have no respect for him and that he’s walking away from our marriage.
I am beside myself and don’t know what to do - please help!
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother, @Lanlah. It sounds like you’ve been through so much, and just had a massive shock; please do try and be gentle with yourself right now. If you have family and friends you trust, do think about reaching out to them.
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts. You might also want to take a look at the Relate website. They have lots of advice and support, including the option to book a chat with one of their counsellors.
Take good care - you’re not alone.
Hi Lanlah, sorry for the loss of your Mum, I lost my Mum and Dad within four months of each other, some time ago and was heartbroken, my Husband was not very supportive, I’ve now lost my Husband and it’s a completely different heartbreak, I loved Him so much, I’m just exiting now. Please try and have a good chat with your Husband and explain exactly how you feel, we all know life is very short, please try and look forward to time spent together. As for taking his name, lots of people use both names. I don’t know if I have been of any help, I wish with all my heart my Husband was here and we were planning holidays and so on as I now lead a very lonely life. Please look after yourself.