Usually the rector or vicar has a list, yesterday ours said at the end, have I missed anyone off from the last year.
It was less emotional for me, I felt numb, but I did go to a lake afterwards to take photos in memory of mum, she loved singing, the countryside and taking photos which I have inherited so I felt I honored her yesterday.
At my wife’s Catholic church someone asks to have mass said for them on a particular day. That is happening on the day of the 1st anniversary. Not sure how well I an my daughter who is coming with me will cope. Then a visit to the grave and lunch out with my daughter, the only one of 4 who can make it on that day.
Take care xxxx
It is upsetting when no clear guidance given how it works. Makes you feel not important. Happened before and I feel so queer people died he never mentioned. Feels churlish to complain as that is not what Iwant to make myself so unpopular and a moaner. Yet here I am saying it here.
Thought I would get less sensitive as time goes on. I feel I should just know how stuff works. Now I have mislaid my phone getting all distracted again and allowing myself to get emotional and bd over reactive. I have two phones because of this would you believe? And lots pairs glasses. Then they get broken because fall asleep and they fall and I step on them.
The time I waste going round in circles.
Mind tricks going round that the dreaded next stage in decline.
Enorac, that’s the great thing - we can say these things here and no one takes the slightest offence. I’m sure you remembering him in your heart - that’s all that matters in the big scheme of things.
I’ve found I’m more sensitive to the oddest things, even just typing something here can set the tears flowing, so I guess it’s pretty natural. I’ve got two iPhones, two iPads, two laptops plus a Kindle and double the number of Alexa’s now. They’ll be answering each other back before long! My house is like a branch of Curry’s!
Take care. xxxx
Hi Enorac,
I went to a all souls service yesterday. About a week before I went up to the church to light a candle for my wife, I go every month on the date, they had a list up and you had to add the name on. I didn’t know anything about it, till I saw a poster.
Take care.