I have written this to hopefully help people who have questions about Mediums.
I hope this might help you and anyone else.
I’m not touting for business, I just want to explain to try and help people who are thinking of seeing a medium.
All my life I have been able to tap into a frequency many can’t see or hear but sometimes they pick up on. When you think you see someone out the corner of your eye, hear something you can’t explain, feel odd at certain locations, or just knew something was going to happen.
We all have a 6th sense, it’s just some of us can tune into it more than others.
As a medium my gifts allow me to see, hear, feel, and communicate with spirit. Sometimes I only catch a glimpse, other times they are as clear and detailed as a living person stood in front of me.
I recently lost my brother and his passing taught me things I hadn’t quite understood about what happens on the other side. They go through a process. He moved through that process quickly as I could reach him. It’s a process of transition.
I have known for many years that when we die, we simply go home. We return to spirit and meet back with those we know and love. We take with us our knowledge and the emotions we experienced. Our lessons we have learnt. We are judged by ourselves - nobody else judges us.
When we go home, our physical pain is left behind. We maintain our personality. But we are free from the constraints of our physical body.
As a medium, I am shown things visually. I am given names that mean something to the person I’m reading for, and I am told about past events for that person. I am shown and told of things to come. This helps reassure those seeking insight that they are connecting to their loved ones. I even get told things they don’t know about and often later contacted to say the detail was known by other members of the family when the information was shared.
You must be careful - there are some unscrupulous people out there who charge a considerable sum who are not what they claim to be. So always go to someone others highly recommend. All of the readings I do come from recommendations of people I have read for.
Please be reassured by this message. As a medium I want to help people.
Talk to your loved ones - to draw them near, picture them in your mind and call their name (surnames don’t matter - it’s the first name that resonates). Ask for their help - they like to assist us. Notice if the edges around you feel tingly - they are energy and they can be felt. You don’t have to go to their grave to talk to them - dead people don’t hang around cemeteries- they go there when you go there as they are on your mind’s focus. You can focus on them anywhere - whenever you want.
If you are reading this and it is not your belief, then that’s fine. I do not follow any religion as I help all.
I hope this has helped. We have to move forward in life. It doesn’t mean we have forgotten them. This is your life to live, the part they shared with you lives in your and their memory - that will always exist. That never die.
Please be strong and take time to heal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. But don’t be afraid to take time to think about them and the happy things you shared. I hope this has helped. They are not gone. They just changed frequency. They are still near. Best wishes x
@PrettyPinkRoses hi,
If we ask for signs to confirm our loved ones are with us will they always do it? Also will they always stay with us or will they move away, is it our choice or theirs? Does meditation actually link with them. I’m sure some flowers in a vase in my house kept moving right up to the morning of the funeral but then stopped after that day. Could this have been my loved one or someone else in spirit. Will they know when we are going to pass and do we have any say in that? Sorry to ask so many questions just trying to find some comfort after 8 weeks of trauma. Thank you
I have lots of questions about the afterlife. I’m a massive sceptic because there’s been absolutely nothing to convince me there’s anything after death. Me and my OH both believed that we are our brains and once that’s dead we are nothing. I really hope that’s not true because I desperately want to believe I’ll see my OH again and all my other relatives who have passed.
One thing I wonder about often is why do some people get signs and others like myself get nothing at all?
Why do some mediums advise that you wait a year then others say they can connect almost immediately?
Why do some people say souls need to recuperate on the other side if they had an illness here? Your physical body has the illness, your soul does not so why would souls need to recover from something that only effects your physical body?
What would you even do every day for eternity if the afterlife was forever?
Do we still have earthly relationships on the other side? Will my partner still be my partner? My mother still my mother etc? Or will we just be a group of souls?
So many questions I’d love to know the answer to.
Also are you a well known medium? Do you have a Facebook page I can have a look at? That’s just me being nosy, I’ve actually got a reading booked with a medium at the end of the month. I’m nervous about it. I paid £750 for it so I’m really hoping it’s good 
Good morning
I’m going to cover your questions as a list. But first of all, no medium worth their salt should be charging £750!! A lawyer doesn’t even charge that for a whole day. Cancel it. That doesn’t sound right to me. I charge £40 for an hour (or longer if a person needs more help).
Some people experience spirit and others don’t:
It’s all about being able to tune into the frequency. And you fine tune that ability over the years.
As a child I was terrified - I used to see people in my room that nobody else could see. I could hear people talking and the house had lots of unexplainable activity. In my early 20s I decided to see a medium, she was a lovely old lady and she helped me to understand what this was. As a child I could predict every colour car that would come round the corner where we lived. I would be able to pluck an answer to a complex maths question out of the air - I saw the answer in front of me. I would get information for people - some of whom were strangers.
There are lots of very good mediums who are not famous. As a medium it is important to not be full of ego. Ego is human and as a medium you have to work without ego.
The recovery period is more of an adjustment. They have not fully gone over, they are still connected to here. I clear locations where spirits have not gone over. They might be scared of the light, or fear where they are going.
There is no set time. When mediums say it has to be x amount of months - that is ego creeping in.
There seems to be a process of acceptance and readiness on their part.
We go back to the only way I can term it as a pod. Our group of people.
In life you sometimes get family members that just aren’t like the rest of the family. Don’t get on, follow different things from the rest etc. They chose to grow up with that earth family but on the other side belong to a different pod with whom they belong.
We all meet up but we are with our pods mainly. That’s how it has been described to me by them over the years.
They are busy learning. They help us, it’s like a collected knowledge. Time doesn’t seem to exist with them. Everything is in the now.
We learn we are born, we live, we die. I a linear pattern. It’s not like that. It’s not a horizontal time line, it’s vertical and everything past present and future is there at the same time. That is where mediums read from.
If your OH was on the same wavelength as you and you were close, you will be from the same pod. You will be together in that pod.
We come back as different versions to learn a broader scope of lessons.
Cancel your reading. I feel you wanting to go and see a medium is for proof of the afterlife. It is there, I need to teach you how to look for it yourself. And I will. And you will start to notice the things around you. I would hazard a guess you OH is right next to you trying hard to get through. I will let you know what to do to allow that door to open. Your first lesson is to sit quietly and just let your mind drift over things for a while. And once it’s got used to you sitting quietly, clear your mind- just picture your OH in your mind and focus on that. Call out their name as if you were calling out to them when they were here. You only call their first name. Surnames have not resonance in spirit.
While you are doing this, bring your consciousness to how your body is feeling - around the edges. Like when you know someone is standing close to you even though they’re not touching you. We need to get you to notice your auric field. You might feel tingling, cold, dizzy. They are energy and we can feel them. This is the starting point.
Be patient. Sit in the quiet and tune in xx
Hi Tiffany
Picture them in your mind and call there first name. It will bring them close to you.
Probably was him letting you know they are there.
They seem to wait until their funerals and then fully go over. But they can flow backwards and forwards. Just call him.
There are lots of signs. I have a stack of coins. Some mornings I come downstairs and they have been placed all heads up, precisely distanced apart. I don’t think they are able to be observed. If my camera is on it doesn’t happen. But it does when it’s not observed.
They are not gone, just on a different frequency. Listen and notice things - there will be signs.
If she can prove to me that there’s an afterlife then it will be worth every single penny. The reason I’ve decided not to cancel it and go elsewhere is because she’s very specific in the information she gives out. She’s not one to say oh I’ve got a young man here who passed from chest issues etc, she actually comes up with names and gives detailed information about medical history etc. The one reading I watched she detailed a cause of death that I had no idea could even kill you. I need highly specific information to make me believe and vague things that could apply to most people or things like I have a young lady or gentleman here just won’t do anything at all to make me believe.
I’ll definitely try a more reasonably priced medium after I’ve had my reading though so I can compare them. If it turns out that the cheaper medium was just as good or better then I’ll feel like a bit of an idiot but I’m desperate to know what to believe right now.
One thing I wonder about for those that have lost their OH’s is if we do reunite with them will it still be on a romantic level? Will we still be OH’s or will we all just love each other the same way? So if I do reunite with him will I still be his partner or will I just be someone he loves in the same way he loves his parents or grandparents etc?
That is my main worry. I don’t want to love everyone equally in the same way in the afterlife. I’m 38, he was the most important person I’ve ever had in my life, the person I’ve loved the most in my entire life. I’ll happily stay on my own until I die if it means I get to reunite with him in the same way in the afterlife but from what I’m getting from this thread is we’ll lose emotions in the afterlife and all just love everyone equally. I don’t want to love everyone equally. I want my special people in life to still be my special people. I want my OH to still be my OH 
We have a universal love when we go home. We are not as our human form. We are energy. The relationships we form on this earth plane are for here. Shen we go home we return to a collective love. We have closer bonds with some more than others but husband/wife is something we attach as a label here. The close bond exists beyond here but without that label.
It is important that you live this life as you have lessons still to experience. Spirit do t turn in their graves if their earth partner meets someone or re-marries. It’s not like that. Your soul is yours. You don’t belong to anyone but collectively we evolve together.
Earth bound we have invented rules in the same way time is a man made invention. They have no bearing beyond this physical realm.
We all go to the same place and we judge ourselves from reflecting on the choices we made in life.
You will meet back up with your husband and that extra special bond will remain but it is not like life as we know it here. We are energy that has vast knowledge when we lose our human connection as that limits what we know.
It is very difficult to describe the feeling of the other side as we don’t have the correct language to do so.
I hope you get what you need to from your reading, and I hope this insight might have answered some of your questions. But remember, this live is to be lived and learnt from. And spirit walk amongst us. We each have a guide who helps to guide us and line things up for us. X
I’ve had this weird tingling feeling all over my body and face when I was dreaming of my husband or thinking of him. It’s only happened a few times but I did wonder if that was a sign.
Is it correct that what we want in the afterlife will be so much different that we can’t comprehend? Is that why we don’t want it to be that way? I know what @LostLil means. I keep thinking I won’t move on here as I want to be reconnected to my husband in the afterlife. If you’re saying it won’t be in that form like exclusively one man with one woman, it does make me sad.
So is the afterlife better than this life? Do spirits prefer it there? Also does religion exist? Is the afterlife heaven?
So basically I’m here grieving the love of my life wanting to stay on my own until it’s my turn to go so I can reunite with him as a partner and he’s there not seeing me as a romantic partner anymore but as another soul who he’s only going to love in the same way he loves everyone else? Well that’s put me in a bit of a downer
I feel more depressed than ever now 
Maybe the love from the light overtakes any other love. I suppose it’s like how I imagine injecting heroin, they say that first hit is euphoric. Maybe the afterlife is like that all the time. So any other love wouldn’t be able to compete. My head feels mashed!
@PrettyPinkRoses just been reading the posts and very interesting. I went to the spiritual church last week and only 3 people there. The other 2 people got a reading from their parents. Both ladies are in their seventies so guess that they would of lost their parents. I however did not get a reading. They apologize that no one came through for me.
I lost my husband suddenly and never got the chance to say goodbye or to tell him I love him and appreciate him. He was 53 years old and I am 56. I’m always talking to him out loud. Do you think he can hear me and why didn’t he come to me at the spiritual church. Sorry for the questions. Xx
Mine too. I keep thinking he was without a doubt my favourite, most important person in my entire life. I loved him deeply. My real birth father for example has never been around, will I get to the afterlife and only love my OH as much as I’ll love my father who I don’t care about at all in life?
Will we not hug and kiss or have physical relationships with our OH’S in heaven? Ok I get baby making won’t be a thing in the afterlife and we won’t be full of hormones so maybe sex isn’t a big deal up there but hugging and kissing etc? Will we not have them feelings for eachother up there?
Well I wish my guide would help line things up for me because I’m absolutely bloody clueless as to what I’m supposed to do next in life
I actually had a plan to plod on in life until my time comes and hopefully reunite with my OH in the same way we were in life but this thread has made me wonder if that’s even going to happen
I always hoped it would be like the film ghost.
My husband was my favourite person too. I felt like we had a deep soul connection. Even through all his troubles in life I could never walk away from him.
I told you in another post I think. An old friend of my husbands, he went to meet a medium and apparently said I was a good woman and he didn’t mind if I moved on. That really annoyed me! In life he was so jealous, I just could not imagine him ever agreeing to me being with someone else. If they lose their ego in the afterlife, I wonder if we will know them.
They say they keep their personalities in the afterlife but what if their personality is made up with loads of stuff like sarcasm or jealously etc. It’s too much for my head.
Yes I remember you saying that. What I don’t get is why they don’t mind us moving on? Is it because they know we won’t have the same relationships with them in the afterlife as we do on earth? If that’s the case then I’m not sure I like the thought of the afterlife. Ijust want to be with him in the same way we were together on earth. I don’t want some universal love where everyone is equal.
Maybe earthly relationships are better than spiritual relationships
I’ve seen other readings by well known mediums who have said the soul he’s connecting with has said they are happy that their partners have moved on and found love again and at the time I thought well how will that work once they are reunited? I guess not having romantic feelings in the afterlife kind of explains that but I want romantic feelings in the afterlife. I want him to still be my partner.
Me and you are both so young. I don’t want anyone else ever. I just want him. What if when I get there I realise that I don’t get to reunite with him in the way I want?
Arghhh! I’m completely headshot now
I know. Part of you thinks just do what you want here and now because it’s only us judging us.
It’s really depressing
Before I kind of felt like I hadn’t really lost him, we are just parted temporarily and we’ll be together again when it’s my time to go but now I feel like maybe I have truly lost him because we’ll never have the same relationship again even if we are reunited. I’m feeling completely deflated by this now
Oh I don’t know. Part of me wishes I’d never looked into an afterlife
It’s not like we have a choice either is it. When our time comes we will know.
I was thinking about my children. I love them and obviously want to be with them in the afterlife. Then I thought what if they previously been someone else’s child/mother etc but they chose to reincarnate. Wouldn’t that other family want them back?
Oh ffs That actually made me LOL. You seem to be thinking about it all just as much as me and @Jess1
So many questions isn’t there?
Yes I get your point though. If my OH has already reincarnated before who will he even be in the afterlife? My OH or the person he was in a previous life? The more I think about it the less sense an afterlife makes to me.
The only thing we know for sure is that we are here now. Maybe we just need to focus on the now and worry about what happens after we die when we die
Yes I think so. I am going nuts the more I think of it.
I just thought “where do souls come from in the first place?” they must have started off at some point. Why didn’t god or whoever just make extra