Memories

Losing a partner
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I lost my husband of 53 years 11 months ago,it’s been the hardest thing I ever faced ,some days I am ok others in pieces .Random memories pop into my head and this may sound silly but they make me both happy and sad at the same time

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Hi Jennifer4.

Firstly, I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my partner 2 weeks ago and have been feeling much the same. Once happy memories are now making me feel both happy and sad. So have a good idea where you are coming from.

Not sure that helps. But the community on this forum is very supportive.

Take care

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Dear @Jennifer4 ,

It’s exactly the way you describe it.

My beloved wife passed away nine months ago.

The very hard days are becoming a bit less frequent.

But all of a sudden a memory pops up and “kawoooosh” the floodgates do open up all the way.

But such a crying bout seems to clear the soul, afterwards one feels somehow relieved, at least for the moment.

Sending strength your way, may God bless you!

Kind regards - Joe

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Hello Jennifer 4, so sorry for the loss of your husband :cry:, my husband passed away 10 weeks ago, and I miss him terribly … I know what you mean about those beautiful cherished memories that now make us cry :cry: looking at pictures makes me yearn for those long ago days. When my husband was healthy and so handsome :heart_eyes:. Hopefully with time it won’t hurt so much. Take care and may God bless you :folded_hands:

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Thank you for your kind words , sorry for your loss ,

I understand what you mean about crying ,sometimes the flood gates open , but I suppose it’s because we had happy marriages we are so sad

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So sorry for your loss , crying does help , if we hadn’t had happy marriages we wouldn’t be so sad , so I hang on to that and think how lucky I was for 53 years ,

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Sorry crying was mentioned in another comment , photos do bring back so many memories, take care

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No it doesn’t sound silly at all. I find even the happy ones make me sad because I 'll never make any more with my lovely partner. I lost him eight months ago after 40 years together. I even find photos difficult to look at. Everywhere you go memories are triggered by something. Hopefully in the future we both can look back and smile instead of crying.

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I a. Told

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I am told it does get easier I find that hard to comprehend,my husband once told me I would cope without him but he wouldn’t cope without me ,but he was my rock and such a positive person ,

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