Hi, it is normal to experience extreme memory loss? I lost my husband a year last September. My memory from that time is blurry. Today I bought my young daughter a bubble fish lamp in the sales. When I got home my 13 year old son complained it was unfair how I’d bought her one when last year I bought him one home but took it back as he refused to spend his Christmas money on it. I literally have no recollection of this happening.
Now he’s mentioned it I think I can remember seeing this lamp in b&m it was a Xbox one and quite expensive. But I can’t remember buying it then taking it back and getting a refund. He’s adamant it happened. I’m 39 but I don’t know if I should be worried about this.
Memory issues are part of the deal I’m afraid. I think it’s pretty normal.
I can’t remember the first few weeks and still forget things I’ve said or done.
I discovered I’d forgotten to pay my car tax and I thought I’d changed the address with DVLA but hadn’t ( to mention just 2 examples! )
Be gentle on yourself. You also have children to care for so you’ve got more to cope with.
Thank you. Yes to be honest I had awful trauma. My husband took his own life as well as my elderly mum falling breaking her hip weeks later and my 21 year old daughter hiding a pregnancy from me until 2 months before she was due.
I also have 5 children. Sometimes I wonder how I’m still functioning. I remember feeling like I was in a dream world for months after his death. I didn’t think I’d ever feel normal again. Xx
I’m amazed you are still standing let alone functioning!
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I thought I had it tough
But you’ve had so much to deal with and that’s compounded by complicated grief!!
My fiancé died of acute alcohol intoxication the day before our wedding. I’d moved out of my house earlier that week so I became homeless (or houseless) the same day so ended up living with my dad.
You are obviously a strong woman even if you don’t feel it. If you can get through that you can get through anything! X
Thank you. Wow you’ve also been through a lot. Reading everyone’s stories it makes you realise you’re not alone. Life is crap at times.
I keep thinking my life is ruined forever. I try not to dwell and just get up each morning and carry on. It will never be how it was though and for that I’m sad!
It’s so hard to get used to the new normal isn’t it?
I do think reading here makes you realise you aren’t alone and everyone has a different story but there are themes that are the same!
You are doing so well. I can’t imagine having to get up and deal with demands of children. I found it hard enough to take the dog out. My son was 22 and away at Uni - also it wasn’t his dad so he wasn’t affected as much.
My life feels like it has stopped too and I’m now in a wasteland not knowing where I’m going. I’m told it will go on and have to believe God has got me, even though I don’t understand the why’s!
My daughter is in her last year of law school that’s why she didn’t tell me she was having a baby. The baby is 1 now and my daughter has continued with her studies, not sure how.
I’ve also started a degree. I did it on a whim. I literally needed to find a new normal so I just did something random and threw myself into it without thinking.
@Kat1984
I totally take my hat off to you for making the decision to venture into a new chapter in your life. I welcome you into the world of nursing and wish you all the best with your studies xx
