Miscarriage Friday night

Losing a child
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I have been trying to have a child for five years and I actually gave up in my life was just normal ticking on nicely then I found out I was pregnant about a month ago. Friday night. I started getting pain in my left side really badly at first I thought it was just the growth but I ended up going to A&E when I got there still in pain cause then about an hour later I started bleeding they kept testing my bloods examined me then the cheek of it I asked my husband to leave the room when I really wanted him with me and then they asked me ridiculous questions and they said they do it to everybody but I felt really victimised. My husband would never hurt me then a top it of all off they left me in pain. Then they said that I’d lost my baby and sent me home then the next day I was in pain again really badly in my left side. I had to go back and the doctor treated me like butchered me and it really hurt. Plus, they put me around lots of pregnant, happy ladies.I just feel really lost and alone there was no support whatsoever. They just said you lost your baby. I’m sorry and that was it. And sent me on my way I wanted the injections to turn off all the pregnancy hormones so I could forget about it but they didn’t and I’m still experiencing all those symptoms as if I was still carrying a child. The only difference is I’m pissing blood they didn’t give me anyone to talk to you. They just treated me like a dog and now I feel so alone and lost. I’ve tried talking to my partner he is trying but it isn’t enough. I know that sounds ungrateful but I just feel its though I don’t want my life to go back to how it was I was looking forward to having my baby I thought for once someone is giving me a break but instead, just pure heartache I don’t really know how to cope right now.

Miscarriage at 5 weeks
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Hello @Hildafifi,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for your loss that brings you here.

You say you are feeling lost and alone. It is completely understandable for you to be feeling pure heartache and unsure how to cope. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby and for the lack of support from the hospital.

Sending love and heartfelt sympathies your way x