Miss my dad

I lost my Dad suddenly 12 weeks ago! I wasn’t in the country at the time (sept wkend) got the call from my partner to tell me, that my dad had passed away. I cant believe i wasn’t with him when he needed me the most. Im struggling today, feel lost and lonely.


Hello @Lisamcf ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Hi, I’m so sorry you lost your dad and weren’t able to be there. I have some understanding losing my dad suddenly in September. He was on away on holiday with my mum. Like you, I’ve felt lost. It’s so hard to accept & the bad days are still incredibly difficult. Thanks for posting, it does help to know you aren’t alone. If we’d have had some way of knowing we’d have been there, I’m sure they’d have had no doubt about that. Take care

Hi thank you for your replying . Im sorry about your Dad and our similar situation. it does help knowing that others are feeling like myself. The longer he’s passed the harder it feels. I hope your doing ok. Xxx

I’m sorry it’s harder as time is going on right now, it’s still early days and it’s still so hard. My heart goes out to you. Not being there or able to say goodbye has been heartbreaking. Every day is different for me, it’s always there though, some are okay and others days I’m broken. Sending love & comfort & hopes for easier days ahead x

Thank you Sarah your words have been comforting, lm just sad for thing my dad will miss. I have a 3yr old who was my dads world (only Grandson) and who was my son’s favourite person. I feel im grieving for the both of us. I couldn’t speak about my Dad to my son at first or even look at pictures. But its getting easier to share stories with him and keep his memory alive. But i cant watch videos of my dad, its just to sore. Sending you my love xx

He sounds like a wonderful man and an amazing grandad. Those early years really matter, and your son will always have that, your dad will always be part of who he is. That’s the worst thing, not just grieving for yourself but for your son. It’s so sad & painful. At times I feel like I’m grieving for my dad as well, exactly like you said for the things he’ll miss out on. I feel he’s been ripped away from us, not taken. It’s hard. Hope you’re doing okay over the last couple of days, it’s a tough time of year and busy with a little one. Thinking of you both x

Hi so so sorry to hear your news and of your sadness. I lost my lovely dad July 21 and I think about him and miss him everyday.

Just take 1 day at a time. Cry when you want to and don’t worry what others think. It’s your grief and your journey.

I can’t honestly say it’s gets easier but you just learn to live with your grief. I know my dad like yours will always be my dad, but feel sad at what he’s missing.

Just take care of yourself and get help when you need it.

Sending big hugs x

Our dads where definitely taken too soon. Ive been feeling a bit better the past week, i think my mind preoccupied with xmas. Hope your doing ok xxx

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