Miss my dad

Losing a parent
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My dad died in December then my. Aunty in January. It’s getting harder and harder. I just want to be with my dad

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Hello Alleyo,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad and your aunty. It sounds as though things are very tough at the moment and you are feeling very lost.

I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.

You might want to take a look here:
Losing a parent: Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder

Cruse Bereavement offers a helpline, email support, and counselling and support groups through their local services: 0808 808 1677​, helpline@cruse.org.uk, http://www.cruse.org.uk/bereavement-services

Take care - keep reaching out,
Alex

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My Dad died in July and I am really struggling.
It’s so so hard .
I wish I could say something to help …

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I suddenly lost my dad February this year. It was a shock! I know what you mean when you say you just want be with him, how do people say it gets easier when it seems to be getting harder the longer it gets.

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Hi Alleyo,

I’m sorry for the loss of your Dad and Auntie.

My dad died in November 2022 and I have never felt pain like it. I miss him more than I knew possible.

I understand when you say you want the be with your Dad. I feel the same way. No one can make me laugh, comfort or guide me like my dad. It is a loss on so many levels and it feels very debilitating still as the reminders are constant.

I feel very daunted as it is coming up to a year since we were given dad’s terminal diagnosis and it’s like I am reliving last year all over again from September when we found out dad was ill until November when he died. It all happened so suddenly and this time last year we thought everything was fine. I am trying not to over think it but it’s not possible, it’s very traumatic to lose one of your most treasured loved ones.

My dad would tell me to keep going and i know what he would tell me in nearly every situation. When I want to talk to him, which is all the time I try to tap into that. I still cry everyday, but some days feel worse than others.

I keep going in the hope that life will mean something again someday.

You are not alone.

Take care.

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@Katherine86 I feel exactly the same

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Hi Laura8,

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s so difficult. Here if you ever want to chat.

X

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@Katherine86 thanks , I just wish I could feel a little better instead of this intense pain .
I know I will never stop missing him and it will always hurt but this is just so overwhelming x

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I found the grief completley overwhelming for the first months after losing dad. It’s like being transported to a different planet and nothing feels familiar. I was and still do feel very lost. It’s like a physical and mental pain to miss someone so much.

Slowly, I think i am starting to get used to missing my dad. The sadness / longing is always there and that is almost like my new baseline but the grief which feels like a sledge hammer when it strikes throughout the day isn’t as constant so just feeling sad almost feels more bearable! It’s very confusing and difficult to put into words. I didn’t think I would be able to cope but somehow you do.

X

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@Katherine86 yes that’s how you feel . It’s still really raw . 6 weeks …
I am glad you are having slightly better days . They wouldn’t like that we feel this bad would they.

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Six weeks is so recent. You do find a way to keep going

No, they wouldn’t like it! That is the big motivator to keep going, for them. X

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@Katherine86 so very difficult. I am trying really hard for him. X