Hi. I lost my fiance in a road traffic accident, which he was totally blameless in, 4 weeks ago & I’m still struggling with the trauma of it all. So many unanswered questions & so much anger towards the person who caused it, just wondering if anyone else has been in the same boat & could offer some help with coping mechanisms thanks.
Hello @Hever125,
I’m so sorry to hear about your fiance. That sounds really traumatic and that you have lots of difficult feelings.
As well as the online community, we offer a range of online bereavement support services that might be helpful to you. You can explore these at sueryder.org/support.
You might also want to reach out to Road Peace, who have support for people bereaved by a road crash at www.roadpeace.org/support
Please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take good care of yourself,
Naoise
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Sorry for your loss. I’m not in the same boat as you as my partner died suddenly, 7 months ago, but I lost my dad in a road accident when I was 16 although it was a long time ago. My mum was at work and I remember the police coming to the door and telling me. I was in a state of numbness afterwards . It was also the fault of the other driver. I’m 70 now but I’ve found my partner’s sudden death very traumatic. I hope you have support from friends and family. It’s natural to have animosity towards the other driver, you wouldn’t be human otherwise. Your mind is trying to make sense of everything, your thoughts going round in circles. Are you close to your fiancée’s family as they will be grieving too? Grief affects everyone differently, you do what feels right for you just now. Your life has been turned upside down, I wish I could say the emotional pain gets better quickly but grief takes its own time. I’ve found that posting on this forum really helps as people understand much better than sympathetic friends as we’ve all lost someone close to us. Take care.
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