I am not doing too well recently. I have been ill today. I don’t know if it’s to do with my brain injury but it makes the grief worse. Also having complex, confusing problems with family. I think you are lucky if you can work because it’s a distraction and soothing balm against dark thoughts. Sorry , I sound such a wet rag, hopefully I will get my sense of humour back at some point . It’s lost down the back of the sofa . Along with making sense of everything i will find it one day ,not too far in the future again
Hi @Redlady - sorry to hear that you have not been feeling well. I hope you will soon start feeling better. Grief catches you off guard at any time. I hope you are having a better day today - take care x
My mum’s flat is due to be sold in 2 days time. It’s been 7 and a half months since my mum passed away. I have come to realise that the flat was not home to me, it was my mum that was home to me and I miss my mum with all of my heart.
Nevertheless, I will miss my mum’s flat, although it is being sold to a friend of mine so I know it will be looked after. Home was my mum and it’s not getting much easier as time goes by - I have just had to learn to keep going…. 
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I feel the same.
It’s been 6 months since loosing Mum.
Not getting any easier.
In fact the more time passes the more I find it hard not ti be able to talk to Mum.
Even with friends & family this grief ride is lonely….
Thanks for sharing your emotions here.
It dose help to express things here.
Love for now
Will
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Hi @Granzi
How are you, I’m glad the flat has been sorted although I know it will come with sadness.
We’re still nowhere near sorting my mum’s and everything generally looks as though she’s still there. In someways not having to rush is good as I feel like we’ll hopefully feel less raw further down the line. In other ways I wonder if it’s just storing up sadness, if that makes sense?
I’m glad you know your mum’s flat will be cared for. You’re right it’s not the place that’s home it’s the person. That grounding feeling of just chatting with your mum.
Take care of yourself over the next couple of days as I’m sure it’ll feel tough at points x
Thank you for your kind words. It is helpful being part of this online community. I hope you are doing ok. X
Thank you again for your kind words @DollyP5. Unfortunately the flat sale is still not quite complete. Having to find unknown strength to manage this unforeseen problem in the flat sale.
I hope you are doing ok xxx
So sorry 
honestly you can do without any hitches or unexpected problems. It’s hard enough without that. I hope it will be sorted very quickly x
Thank you @DollyP5 - hopefully it will all be sorted out by next week. Take care xxx
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Hello @DollyP5 - my dear mum’s flat sale is completed. Thank you for your kind words through out this time x
Hi, I lost my mum 2.5 years ago now. She passed swat from copd and struggled with her health and breathing in the last three years of her life. Watched her deteriate. I’ve just had another child and I’m really struggling with not having her here by my side with my new son. Plus , also still really struggling with the loss of her. I saw her everyday, and the last words we said to each other just a few hours before she passed was ‘see u tomorrow’ I missed her taking her last breath by just 5 mins. I was preparing for her death for many years and I always wanted to be by her side when she took her last breath but I wasn’t
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Ah @Granzi
I’m pleased for you that it’s not hanging over you or being another thing to worry about.
I think when we get to this point in the process with my mum’s flat I’ll probably feel that it’s good to have the admin and worry part of selling sorted but still a bittersweet moment. I know you said that you know it will be looked after though so I hope that gives you some comfort.
Thank you for getting back and sending you love as you go through this part of the sad journey that we’re all on xx
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Hi @Claire27
I’m really sorry for the loss of your precious mum.
She sounds a bit like mine, in that her health declined over a few years and she struggled with her breathing. I thought I prepared myself when I finally lost her over the years as she had a few close calls. But now I feel like I wasn’t prepared at all.
I also saw or talked to my mum everyday. It’s just really hard and a struggle for sure to accept this life without our mums. I’m sorry you’re struggling too.
Would you maybe like to tell us anything about your lovely mum or just share how you’re feeling any more. I’ve found this chat really helpful in being able to talk about how I feel about losing my amazing mum so I hope it helps you too xx
Thank you @DollyP5. Take care x
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Hey Granzi,
I so sorry for the loss of your mum. I am in the same situation, it is so tough going. I know the feeling of being alone, being busy, all at once. When does this pain end? I don’t know either ?
I don’t know if it’s fortunate, or unfortunate that I know a few people that lost their mother’s at an early age. What they went through keeps me strong.
I know Beloved Ma is looking down on me and smiling and knows that my perserverance to succeed will never die. Her cherished legacy to me lives on for ever.
Granzi, I know it is so so hard, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you Comfort1 for your kind words. It’s a hard journey to be on but I think my Mum is still around looking out for me and family and friends. Hope you are doing ok xxx
Hi all. New to the forum but stumbled across this thread and it’s been a huge comfort to read. So many themes that I’ve also struggled with since losing my beloved Mummy almost a month ago. It’s nice not to feel alone with them. Mummy was diagnosed with cancer 11 months before it took her but she had been given the all clear, then deteriorated and died within 4 weeks. I feel a bit silly for not seeing it coming I guess. Most of all I just miss her. She was my go to person for everything, even just to tell her what I had for lunch. Trying to parent still through my grief and return to work, I’ve got a supportive husband and great friends but feel so alone.
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Sorry for you loss _Luu
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@_Luu, I hope you are doing ok and being part of this online community will be helpful to you. It has helped me as at times the grief can be intense. We shall try to carry the grief as it shows how much love we had for the person or people we have lost. I miss my mum more each day but I feel she is still around, that’s what helps me through. Take care xxx
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I feel that and understand.
Have support but feel so alone in grief
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