My mum died in July from lung and bone cancer and I’m struggling
Hey, I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve found that there are no words that can ease the pain and loss of someone so important in your life. I miss my mum too, she died last January after battling an aggressive form of breast cancer. I miss her every day.
I’m trying to learn to live with the grief, I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to accept it. There are times when I’m hit by sudden bouts of panic, breathlessness and uncontrollable bursts of tears and others when I feel filled with love, strength and pride from having such a beautiful, generous and courageous woman to call Mum. All we can do is be kind to ourselves.
You’ve just said how I feel tbh
It feels like I can’t say that I’m feeling sad, in case I upset the family. Xx
Could your family be feeling the same way? Not wanting to say something in case they upset you? I have a blended family, some of my family show their emotions and others don’t and that’s ok. Every person my mum knew had a different relationship with her. None were perfect but we all loved her for who she was and what she meant to us. I try to embrace the cliche it’s ok to not be ok. I struggle with isolation and loneliness, I used to try to be brave for my younger sister but over time we’ve just learnt to be there for each other on the good days and the bad.
It feels like I’m the only one who wants to talk about her tbh which hurts x
Are there other people who knew her that you could reach out to? I found chatting to my mums friend helped a lot x
Hi I’m sorry to hear about losing your mum, I too lost my dear mum in July this year and have really struggled every day, the emotions were so strong, I have two brothers and still my dad and they all don’t show anything ( maybe in there own way possibly when on their own they do) I have two very supportive daughters but when you lose someone so close as your mum even though you have support you can feel so alone, I’m waiting for counselling to start in a couple of weeks hopefully that will help somewhat trying to come to terms with it, I feel so lost at times, have felt angry and guilty I haven’t come to the stage of accepting she has gone yet and I don’t know if I will, I miss her so much, it’s such a rollercoaster ride we are all on and a dark journey hopefully we can all help each other along, maybe counselling could be a helpful thing for you to, messaging on here really helps too,
I’m so sorry for your loss of your mum
My mum died 11 months after my husband died
I started to write in a journal
At the beginning I wrote in it every day
I could write down things what I couldn’t say to anybody which was great
I was so angry at the world
It let me release my grief my way
Without me offending anyone
After 2 years of loosing my mum I still write in it not every day now
But when I want to share something with them or I am sad angry
It has helped me cope with life
It will not take away the heartache
Over time you learn how to deal with it in your own way
Sending my love