missing my wife

Hi all I lost my Darling wife Tanya to Metastatic Breast Cancer 8 weeks ago & I have never experienced pain like this before she was only 51 & we have a soon 14 year old Daughter.
She was ok for 9 months treatment was working but on the 3 scan it got more aggressive & went to the liver & she was yellow with jaundice.
She was diagnosed in Aug 2019 & passed away on the 20 July this year so we are absolutely heartbroken.
It would have been our 23 wedding Anniversary this Sunday & that is going to be a rollercoaster of Emotions realising I won’t be spending it with My Tanya.
Grief is horrible it has made me mad with the world I did go to church on Sundays I prayed for a miracle but it did not come so my faith has certainly been tested why does Cancer have to take all the good people & leave the horrible ones behind.
Then 12 hours after my Darling wife Tanya paased away I got a phone call to say my Dad had suddenly passed away.
I am really struggling with the loss especially My wife.:cold_sweat::broken_heart::broken_heart:

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Dear Geoffs
I am so sorry that you have lost your wife and your dad so close to each other…there are no words really but you will find support here and perhaps that will help just a little.
When our prayers are not answered the way we want it is devastating … it rocks the foundations of whatever faith we hold… but it is not given to us to know why some people are called home sooner than others so please don’t give up. You and your daughter have a difficult road to travel but I believe none of us travel it alone. It is only when we look back that we realise, just like in the Footprints poem, that we have been carried for much of the way.
Take care of yourself…your daughter needs you more than ever. God bless you both. X

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Geoff I am so sorry you had to lose your darling wife at such a young age. Losing one person you love is unbearable but to then lose your Dad I can only imagine the pain. I lost my husband 6mths ago ages just 64 and I still cry most days. It’s the stupid things that start you off.
Use all the lovely people on here to get some support so you can be there to support your daughter as she will going through hell too.
Sending hugs
Shona x

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Dear Geoffs
I am so sorry for your losses, my heart goes out to you & your daughter. I too am not coping, I lost my 22 year old son, suddenly in June, he was healthy in every way & then in an instant his heart stopped. It was confirmed as SADS sudden arrhythmia death syndrome. The post mortem examination found absolutely nothing wrong, further extensive tests of his organs were done in a specialist hospital in London & nothing was wrong. He was 1 of 500 a year this happens to.
Sending love and strength to you & your daughter x
Keep posting on here, it does help to know that others understand your pain.

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I am so sorry for your loss of your Son…
Grief is horrible the pain & the loneliness the emotions.
When I get upset I feel dreadful I try to keep my self busy but as soon as I stop the emotions & the years as I miss my wife so much it is like part of me went with her.
Good luck & I hope you get support.

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Thank you & I truly hope you find some peace & support.

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