Missing our adult daughter

We have just lost our adult daughter to breast cancer after 10 years of treatment and caring for her, a month ago. We miss her terribly, we are also sharing the care of her 11year old daughter with Daddy and step mum so we are suddenly having to learn to parent in this modern world as well as support her and manage our own grief. It is Christmas and we just don’t have the emotional energy to celebrate this year. We feel so lost, not knowing what to do, wanting to bring her ashes home but don’t want to upset our granddaughter. We are at such a loss.

Hello @Eileen,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.

You understandably sound lost at the moment. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

You might also find Winston’s Wish a helpful resource for supporting your granddaughter, too. Their suggested reading list has age-appropriate books to help explain death to children.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Hi Eileen
Welcome to the group that no one wants to be on I lost my son in July this year after 3 1/2 years of horrendous illness he was bed bound from August unable to move he had just one arm his legs and other arm were paralysed. I hope you find comfort on here I have found it very helpful on my grief journey everyone is so kind and you know that they understand exactly how you feel.
Sending you love and hugs at this difficult time of year hope you find some solace in knowing that you are not alone.
Kim xx

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Im so, so sorry for your terrible loss. You are there for your granddaughter, think how much that would meant to your lovely girl. It would have been heartbreaking for her to leave her but at least she knew you were there. Im sure that must have brought her even a tiny bit of comfort . Please take some strength from that xxxxx