I’ve posted on here before about robins appearing when you’re thinking about your lost loved one. They seemed to alot when she first passed away but it’s been nearly a year now since she went and
lately I haven’t seen one. I read somewhere on here that they come to you initially and when they see that you are ok your loved one continues on their journey. There is stressful stuff going on in my life at present but this morning I was sitting in a public garden just thinking about her and I looked down to see a robin standing between my feet looking up at me. Had she come back because I’m in a particulary tough place at the moment? Who knows. I like to think so.
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I’ve never been okay since my beautiful husband died and haven’t seen one robin x
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Hi Nel. Believe me I don’t have one day when I could describe myself as truly ok but some days are better than others and somehow seeing a robin comforts me.
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Hi . Yes your wife is trying to comfort you with the robin . That’s what I believe anyway . Xtake care x
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I want to see a Robin x
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Nel. I hope you do.
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My husband died in April, in July I was sitting in the garden and a robin flew into the house, it flew around and then out, but it kept flying in and out. It flew into the sitting room and flew from one light fitting to another, it made feel nervous , i closed the doors as I did not want it to go upstairs, Later in the afternoon I was lying down in my bedroom and the robin flew in the window , flew around the room and then out. I heve not seen him since
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@peterj I love a Robin thread!
Mr Wingingit was a real bird lover and spent hours feeding and watching them in our ordinary suburban garden.
Since his sudden death, in March, I’ve taken on the responsibility, in his memory.
Nothing else would be as meaningful to him than continuing the feeding of “his” birds.
It has become very addictive and truly therapeutic.
Like you, Peter, initially I seemed to be visited by 1
Robin in particular but now, though I do see some at the
feeders, my personal visitor appears to have moved on.
I absolutely firmly believe that your wife sent that Robin to deliver a little comfort to you Peter during your current difficulties.
@Nel I hope you get a visit too.
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I am often visited by a robin when I sit outside Costa in Tavistock. Ian and I always use to sit here as we could see and hear the river running past. He wasn’t such an avid latte fan as me but would always have one with me, although his was usually a mocha.
The last time the robin was looking a bit bedraggled so I think it must have been in the river first!!
Finally, I’ve just got back after staying with my son for two weeks. As soon as I walked through the door, the tears came accompanied by that familiar heartbreak and sense of loss. I’m not sure any number of robins could comfort me now…… I just want Ian and my old life back. I have to keep reminding myself that it’s been nearly fifteen months now and not just a few. It often seems as if that first year is ‘missing’.
Sorry to put a dampener on this discussion, just feeling rather sad tonight.
Julie x
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I know how you feel. It’s fifteen months for me too. It feels like yesterday. Others don’t understand the magnitude of what we are going through and what we have lost. Our whole lives everything we put our trust in our safety our love just gone in a moment. No wonder our brains are mashed. It’s still hard to believe and come to terms with all that has happened and how one minute we were happy getting with our routines and bang it’s all gone in a moment. Is it any wonder we go into denial and wish with all our hearts that it hadn’t happened and it’s all just a horrible nightmare. But it’s real and precious memories are what we have left. X
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Hi Peterj, I lost my beautiful Son last November and for a couple of months a Robin would appear in my garden but then nothing until the other day. I’ve been particularly struggling for the past few weeks and everytime I visit his grave I ask for a sign he is with me and last week a Robin with the brightest red breast appeared on my fence and really made me smile. I truly believe that was my sign as do I your Robin that appeared beneath your feet xx
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@Trixie1 : I do know what you mean when you return from visiting friends or family, even if it’s just a short time.
In some ways it magnifies the loss when you come home again to an empty house.
We then have to get used to being alone all over again.
I think as well, many of us bereaved folk, when we’re in the company of others, put on that brave face as we don’t want to weep and sob all over the place - for their sake and sometimes, for ours too.
Consequently, once back home, those pent up emotions flow and 2 weeks worth of crying can take place in 1 day!
Understandably, no amount of Robins will help on those days - in my case, on those sort of days they would just add to the pain.
Grief feels a bit like surfing to me (not that I’ve ever surfed or am ever likely to now).
It’s highs and lows, peaks and troughs with a lot of completely falling off the board in between and feeling like you’re sinking.
Riding the waves is all we can do.
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you. x
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Thank you. As you say, coming back from being in any company just increases the silence of an empty house. It wasn’t helped by the fact that my son doesn’t want to talk about his dad or how I’m coping. So for the two weeks I found myself retreating more and more into myself, if that makes sense.
In one way, it was a relief to be back but then I’m hit by that sense of loneliness and fear for the future. Can’t win really!
Take care
X Julie
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I sa a Robin in the park with the redder breast I ever seen 
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Sat outside in Costa again and another robin has appeared. I did hold out my hand but it just flew away. I know not to do that again as I can’t see it now. Its breast was more of an orange colour rather than red.
Julie x
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So pleased you’ve seen a robin Nel, especially one with a bright red breast!
X Julie
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It’s the first one I’ve seen since my husband died. I almost cried. He looked straight at me and stayed for quite a while. I was walking the dog on the park and he appeared right in front of me. I was so delighted x
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Hi Nel
It’s a shame we don’t live nearer as it would be good to meet. X Julie
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Pleased for you too @Nel.
They’re worth waiting for and they do have a way of looking right at you with those piercing wee eyes - almost like they can see into your soul.
Just lovely.
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