I lost my mother on april 17th she went in hospital on 14th april and was chatting and joking on the 14th and 15th and on the sunday 16th she was out of breath and a little confused. I had a phone call at 03.30 am the next morning that she had taken a turn for the worst. On seeing mum at the hospital she opened her eyes and said will you take me home i said yes when it gets light i will dress you. Thats the only thing she said she was having breathing difficulties. She passed away an 09.08
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So sorry to hear. I hope you are coping as well as you can be. My mum passed away seven weeks ago. We too got a phone call saying ‘taken a turn for the worst’. Mum passed before we got there.
This site is really good to talk to other people going through the same. Take care of yourself
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Hi Bingbong,
What an awful shock for you. It all happened in a very short space of time. Youll be feeling lots of hard emotions and hopefully they will ease a bit, in time.
Lots of people on here have lost their mums and are devastated. For myself,I know Ill never be the same again, the world feels a different place.
Im glad the hospital got in touch with you, so that you could be with her.
Mazza x
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I’m so sorry for your loss. My mum went into hospital and because she felt unwell in February, I flew over from Australia where I have been living for a while as soon as I heard she didn’t feel well. When I first got there she was still laughing and joking but had suffered a stroke. From thereon in she was let down by the consultants who failed to diagnose her or speak to different departments and I had to fight the broken NHS system for them to do their job. The whole thing was so stressful and I am very angry for there failings, which resulted in mum dying. Now I am having to get a legal case together and deal with PALS who have said the investigation into the failings is so complex they will take months to provide me with the answers I need. It was totally shocking what I saw whilst in the Great Western Hospital where she unfortunately was. Not only did my mum suffer but I took footage and pictures of many patients mistreated! every day I ask myself if I could have done more to save her.
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I’m so sorry Debbie that your mum was a victim of poor NHS care too. I hope you get somewhere with the case.
I too believe my mum had poor care. My family don’t want to take it further as mum didn’t but it’s eating me up.
The NHS in many parts is a shambles. The hospital mum was in was a shambles, nobody communicates even when I begged them. I will never know if mum died because if their negligence solely but each and every consultant involved I intend to name and shame. I have media interest in my story but won’t get them involved until they reply to my 5 page complaint. I now live in Australia and having two children to think about, I would never inflict the NHS on them. Any of the good medics have moved to other countries. Yesterday I needed to see a doctor, I called at 8.00 am and had an appointment at 10.00 am the same day. At that appointment I got a referral to see a psychologist, all paid for my the medical system here. There is no chance that would happen in the UK today. The government have no idea about the harsh realities of the NHS because they are all rich and go private. I won’t rest until I have stood up for mum and others in the same situation. Sorry for the rant 
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I totally agree with you. I know full well that if mum received adequate care, she’d still be here. The whole system is a farce.
Hope you’re coping ok today. I’ve been reading my mum’s book today so that’s weirdly been helpful. I’m finishing it for her 
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