I dont post on here often and have left a few chat groups and also a zoom meet up due to various reasons, I miss my chats but dont want to ofend anyone on those chats.
Well tonight is the last night in what was our home, I move to my new home tomorrow and then start my new adventure.
I decided to move as the house felt so wrong after Rob passed, we moved here to make his life more comfortable but unfortunately 4 months after moving he sadly passed away in July 2023. I then had breast cancer and got through that in 2024 but the house reminds me of sad times and illness, so my new home is one I have picked and had builders in making it how I want it to be, I feel Rob would be proud of the way I’ve managed to get it all sorted and its a house I know he would love as has fishing rights at the bottom of the garden.
My travels are still continuing and I hope to go to Bruges by train in July after my trip to Spain in June with a lovely lady I met via a zoom meeting. Next year I hope yo go to China for 19 or 23 days alone as well.
Those that feel like you have no future ahead of you alone believe me I felt like that for 6 months then I remembered all the fun we had on our trips away and it made me realise I only have one life, so fill it with new adventures dont let grief consume you, let the love of a loved one instead help guide you to new places or new things to do.
What a lovely post. The sun has just decided to poke its head around the rain clouds here in Spain just like your message is a ray of sunshine. I think its a great idea to move house when a place becomes wedded to bad memories it’s good to change and your journeying is an inspiration. It’s very easy to retrench when faced with such lose but the only way to overcome this heart break is by changing our selves adapting and living. Which is what our loved ones would want. I wish you all the best.
Tom
What a truly inspirational post . Good luck in your new home . You have filled me with hope that things will get better in the future. I am 5 months in to the roller coaster of a journey. Like you were struggling to see a way forward. I would love to go for a holiday at some point in the future. Not sure I have the confidence to go on my own . I hope you enjoy your travels
I went to York for my 1st birthday without Rob 6 months after he passed, its a place I know and felt safe. I went to a pantomime. A French restaurant and Betty’s tea rooms alone it was sad but something I needed to do to prove to myself I could cope. I went to evensong in the cathedral and a pub for a meal and a drink all very new to do but I managed, I laughed to myself about silly things Rob would say but found that 2 nights in a hotel helped me realise I could cope alone.
I’ve since done 5 more holidays abroad. A few in the uk and have many more to book and plan for the future. Don’t let grief tie you down, I know a few friends that gave up on life when they lost their partners and have become a shadow of who they used to be.
Thank you , my daughter lives in York it a beautiful place . My birthday isn’t till October I plan to do something nice . Not sure what that is yet . Last year my husband died 6 days before his birthday And 10days before my birthday.He died suddenly no warning. That time last year is a bit of a blur .
Do something that makes you happy, its hard doing things alone but if you put your mind to it you can achieve so much. I love going on my solo coach trips something I never thought I would do but I’ve met lots of new friends all with different stories to tell and have so much fun.
Thank you for your advice, I certainly look in to the sole coach trips . The way mind is thinking whatever I do has to be different than what I did with my husband
Thank you for your post. I needed to read it today. It’s been nearly 8 months since my husband died suddenly at home and next week it will go on the market.
We loved this house, Stephen worked so hard renovating it and making it beautiful.
I’ve been sat in the garden sobbing, I’m going to miss it so much but I just can’t stay.
It was lovely to read your positive post. Enjoy your travels.
I knew when I walked into my new home that it felt right, I’ve had builders in doing the kitchen, decorators plumbers and electrician all have done excellent work for me even though I live 125 miles away if any issues they have called. I dropped lucky with the team I’ve used and they wanted it to feel like home when I move in tomorrow.
My husband also died suddenly, he didn’t die at home. He died whist we were in holiday cottage . I had to sleep in the bedroom, where he had died for 1 night before I came home . It wasn’t pleasant, I can understand while you feel the need to move. I think if my husband had died at home i would feel like you do . Good Luck with finding the right house for you
Thank you, my house is full of boxes to move, my car is full as well and ive got to pick my little dog up on route to my new home. A busy day but will be worth it, ive got a waterside home waiting for me to start making my new memories.
Mine is waterside, my husband and grandchildren loved to fish (and play with the maggots) I have the memories to take with me. New ones to make for you.
Punto I have just read your post and it is so uplifting and positive . I know it’s been a while since you lost your husband and had dark times and grief ,but it’s such a good thing that you are enjoying life again and doing so many things. I hope one day to achieve this mind set and hopefully go forward with whatever life I have remaining. I know my husband would want me to do that.ln time I hope it’s possible. Thank you for uour insight and comment. Hope the house move is all you hope for.
Thank you, im going out on Saturday with the Lincolnshire lovlies for coffee to meet new people so should be fun. I have a new job as well as an exam invigilator at a local school all sorted so hopefully I can settle in to city life