Hi all. I I’m struggling with the loss of close friends.
I lost a friend who I’d known 40 years 6 years ago and was devastated. A year later we lost a friend’s sister to alcohol. 18 months after losing her we lost her brother, a close friend. After this i was very low, my girlfriend who i loved very much finished with me because of my low mood.10 months after this a friend of 30 years died after a heart attack.7 months later another friend hung himself.
It is now 6 months later and I received a phone call from a guy who I have known since primary school. First year. We’ve been friends over 50 years. His cancer has come back and he has been given 6 - 12 months.
I’m barely getting time to grieve the loss of someone before I lose another. I’m feeling completely overwhelmed.
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Hello @Stig,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your close friends, and that you’re going through so much. It sounds like you’ve been through so many losses of these long-term friendships that you shared a lot of history with, and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. Experiencing multiple losses can feel incredibly heavy, and it’s completely understandable if you’re finding it hard to cope right now. Please know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Many people in our community have faced more than one bereavement, and while every experience is unique, there can be comfort in hearing from others who understand the exhaustion that can come with grieving more than one person. You might find it helpful to read through some of their posts here.
This community is here for you - whether you want to talk, ask questions, or simply be heard. You are not alone.
Take good care 
Harriet
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Sorry you are going through so much. I have lost friends with large gaps in-between. After I lost my dad last year all the losses from different decades came through this year due to the losses being around the same month. I’ve had to have therapy for help with my depression. I’ve also written down how I’ve felt with each death I’ve gone through lately. I did join a grief group aswell for a while die to the death of my father was overwhelming. This is only a suggestion but if you get in touch with your GP & ask for counselling due to all the losses they may direct you to Talking Therapies. I am with Talking Therapies at the moment & they are very helpful. Also Cruse Bereavement are very helpful. If you are feeling desperate to talk to someone you can phone their helpline. You may have to wait on hold for awhile for someone to talk to but both ladies really helped me when I had a bad day. I hope this can help you. Best wishes Michelle