My dad passed away on 18th Sept 2022 & my mum passed away 15 days later. They were both 93 & had good lives & created a very loving family. They were my rocks throughout my life & I just don’t know how to be ,without them. My husband keeps saying they had long lives & we wouldn’t have wanted them to suffer ,I know all that but at times I feel completely overwhelmed by grief. How do I come to terms with it?
Oh sweetheart can I send you a massive hug.
I lost my Dad 16 days ago aged 76, my mum is quite frail and I think will really struggle without him.
I’ve been feel really overwhelmed just losing the 1 parent so I can only imagine what you are feeling is double, people keep telling me it gets easier with time and I’m hoping it does. I’m sorry I can’t help with you coming to terms with it but I can be a listening ear and a virtual shoulder to cry on. We will get through this.
Do you have people to talk to? I know you mention your husband, other family and friends maybe?
Sending love and hugs x
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Thank you for your message & I’m so sorry for your loss too. Its hard when people say it gets easier don’t you think? To my mind we’re just getting our heads round it. We’re having a joint funeral on Wednesday so maybe I can start to come to terms with it. Hope you’re OK & thank you again for your message x
The its gets easier message I think just comes as standard as people don’t know what to say. We have another 3 weeks til the funeral and it kind of feels like we are in limbo until then, I hope that will help me come to terms with it.
We are all stronger than we think we are xx
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it never matters how long … never.
my mom said when my father died, “it is never enough time.”
she was right, as she always was.
yes, it is great to have a had a long life. but in no way, does it ease your pain at your loss.
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Iv lost both my parents aswel, my mum passed last year on valentines and since then my dad health went down hill, he passed sept 4th after 7 weeks in hospital, its so hard and it never gets any easier, i miss them both so much, big hugs im so sorry for ypur loss xx
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I’m sorry for your loss, I’m actually missing caring for them. I would pop in every day & do their washing,hoover etc. I think it’s just getting used to a new life without them but it’s not easy. Mum was my best friend too, just feel empty without them.
I used to do all that for my dad aswel, his cooking, cleaning, go shopping with him, i miss it all, i miss the routine we had
me same. only child. it was a lot of work caring for my mom and dad but I loved it.
I miss it so.
can only say count yourself fortunate to have had moms and dads you loved enough to care for. 