Mum passed away and I'm the only female left in my family

Hello. My grief and pain is to me strange as although 54, all other female members of my family have passed away.I have a male son and all male cousins and nephews. As I was so close to my mum and only mixed with family, I am so scared and lost.I was her carer for over a year but don’t know how to socialise with females, which I crave. I am sort of angry for leaving me, which is ridiculous .I’m find it hard to cope.

Hi purplehaze,

I’m really sorry to hear that you have lost your mum, and the other female members of your family as well. It sounds as though this has left you feel very isolated.

Looking after her must have taken up a lot of your time and energy, and it’s not surprising that this will affect your social life. It may take time to build up your confidence and start socialising again.

It’s important to go easy on yourself and give yourself a chance to grieve. However, when you feel ready, you could consider taking up some new activities to get you out and about and meeting other women. For example, some women take up an exercise class or hobby, join a club such as the WI or do some volunteering.

Perhaps you would also benefit from going to a bereavement support group? You could meet others in similar situations, and I’m sure there would be plenty of other women there. Your local branch of Cruse Bereavement would be one place to find a support group: http://www.cruse.org.uk/cruse-areas-and-branches

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