I lost my mum in June… and still I can’t deal with it… everybody thinks I’m the ‘strong one’ but I’m struggling… my emotions are everywhere… I suppose it doesn’t help that I’m menopausal but I really miss my mum… I think I should be grateful that I had her for 56 years of my life but I just want her back… dementia and all… I’m the youngest of 5 and all my elders are brothers but I seem to be their replacement mum and I’m just about dealing with things myself… I work full time and my partner broke his hip the same week that my mum passed and I feel guilty that I was visiting him in hospital when she died even though I was there morning till night previously to that… I feel that I should just ‘get on with it’ as ppl suggest but I’m really finding it hard…
I too lost my wonderful Mum recently and I’d had her in my life for 60 years. I was a carer for her and now my life is empty now she’s gone. I feel so alone and isolated. It’s difficult as people just don’t seem to understand how the loss a Mum is such a life changing experience. The one person you could rely on and who loved you unconditionally has gone and there’s a big empty space.
I too wasn’t there when my Mum passed. I’d gone home to get some rest after being with her all day. She’d been well the day before but had undiagnosed pneumonia and contracted sepsis and within 24 hours she was gone. We couldn’t even say goodbye and the guilt is killing me.
All I can say is keep posting on here as I have found the replies from others in a similar situation to be really helpful. It’s good to connect with others who understand what you’re going through. Be kind to yourself and take care