Hi, I don’t know if amyone will remember me from last year when I lost my mum, but I’ve just had her 1 year anniversary on 10th Dec, and im really struggling with it. I feel as if I am right back to last year with my grief, only worse because so much time has passed without my having my mum. I’m so alone. My whole family has vanished. I don’t hear from anybody and I haven’t in a long time. On my mums anniversary I thought maybe somebody would pop in and see how I am doing but nobody did. I didn’t even get a text from anyone. I understand everybody has there own lives to get on with but they all have family, partners etc. I literally have nobody. I have 2 little girls but obviously not to off load anything to them, they have no idea how I feel and think im the greatest thing to walk the earth and im so grateful to have them. I’m just hurt by the rest of my family. My cousin announced her pregnancy on my mums anniversary, and I am very happy for her baby’s are blessings, im just hurt that she couldn’t wait 1 more day to announce it. And what hurt the most is all the family commented on her post to congratulate her, but couldn’t give me a message to see how I am doing. It just feels so raw still after losing my mum and im so lonely without her. If you got this far thank you for reading x
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Hello @Col92,
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum and how tough the first anniversary has been.
Whether it has been one, five or ten years since the person you’re grieving for died, coping with a death anniversary can bring about new feelings each year. You might find our support page on coping with anniversaries helpful to read.
If you need any extra support yourself, we’re here to help. As well as the community, we also have bereavement support information, Grief Guide and our Grief Kind spaces. You can find out more about our bereavement services at sueryder.org/support 
Take care and keep reaching out,
Alex