Its nearly xmas and it will be yhe second one without mum. I still cant get used to not shopping gor her, getting her a gift, she used to love the xmas fims on tv, i watch them but just there heartbroken ,in tears, my family life has kept me busy over the ladt year but every little reminder of mum is so heart breaking, i dont know what to do now,
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Hello @Butterfly22,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Thank you sharing your Christmas memories of her with us. You’re not alone - so many of our members are finding Christmas to be hard.
You might find our coping with grief at Christmas guide helpful to read.
If you need any extra support yourself, we’re here to help. As well as the community, we also have a text support service, online bereavement counselling and our Grief Kind spaces. You can find out more here.
Take care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
Hi Butterfly 22,
Its my 2nd year without my mum also so I can relate to everything you have written. It’s so hard isnt it to get into teh Xmas spirit. Doubt it will ever be the same again. Reminders of shopping with my mum is heartbreaking and memories of everything we did together especially at xmas time.
I have avoided shops as much as possible and shopped on line for things just to save me having reminders of shopping with mum for Xmas things. It has helped so much.
I also did a lot of shopping for presents way back in Oct and again that helped.
Thinking of you
Deborah x
Hello,
I also find this time of year especially difficult. This will be my 3rd Christmas without my Mum and I still find it emotional. We used to have so many traditions which i have tried to keep some going in memory of my Mum, but it is so hard. I still find myself looking at cards and gifts and thinking ‘Mum would love that’ and get upset.
I am with my brothers family this year, which is good, but there are quite a few times I can feel lonely and miss my mum big time. I find myself going to her grave and chatting to her. Grieve is never ending, it is the love we have for our lost loved ones.
I so miss my Mum’s big hugs. .
I will be thinking of you all at this time of year as well as for ever.
Sending love to you Angel85. Its so hard going. Take small steps ok and remember its just one day for Xmas then put it in the past. Shield yourself as much as possible. Take time out to be on your own even if its just for a few minutes
Love Deborah x
I hope you both have a lovely xmss despite everything we struggle with, ive just found out my son and his other half have chosen to have xmas at home this year, so my hubby and i will bechaving a quiet one