My dad has been unwell now since May different things just kept popping up he was admitted to hospital on Friday where he slowly got worst although yesterday he perked up which gave me some hope.
We had a phone call 3.45 am we did not make it before he passed I need to be strong for my. Mum and I have started with informing and getting through that list but I feel like I’m on auto pilot I have cried and I feel upset but I just can’t seem to fully grasp thefeeling off loss I can’t get my head around the fact he is not thier anymore and that he will never be thier again so I find myself aimlessly looking through Google trying to find some help some understanding and thinking can I deal with the emptyness that has been created
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Hello @Paul1, I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Your loss is so very recent and it’s totally understandable that your emotions will be all over the place.
I hope you find the community to be a support. I also wanted to share these resources with you which might help you to make sense of what you’re going through, especially in these very early days of grieving.
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Our Online Bereavement Support, which includes our free online bereavement counselling which is held via video chat, our Grief Guide which has interactive tools to help you cope with grief, and Grief Coach, where you can receive personalised support via text.
Please do keep reaching out here, you are not alone.
Take care
Seaneen
Remember the good times not that you didn’t get there before, I too did not make it but mines because if family problems. Something I’ll never forgive but I try and remember the times I spend with my dad It helps , 3 years on I miss him lots still
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I know exactly how you feel. My dad passed away a week ago on the 15th October and I have spent the week completely on autopilot and in a daze. Definitely doesn’t feel real or like it’s happening to me. I’m not really sure when it’s going to sink in. Take care
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Thank you I do wish I could have made it but I feel it was impossible the time they rang us we went very shortly after
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Thanks everything just dose not seem realy it dose not feel like a Saturday my routines are just not right I feel bad for feeling like it as so many people have all been through this but I do i feel robbed
My thoughts are also with you and your family too
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Hi paul1
Sorry for your loss, my wife passed 14 weeks ago, your emotions will be all over the place, Keep your family and friends around you, don’t be frightened to show your feelings, There are lots of people on here going through or similar situation and will gladly listen They are the best people to talk to
take care
steve
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Thank you Steve for your words
It does make u feel like that. Even more mine was prevented by my own sisters
Sorry to hear that Sarah, all of a sudden it does it’ll come . But we have to let go just like they did us when we grew up and left home
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My Dad passed on October 7th, 16 days and I think I’m still on autopilot, I cry…alot but it still doesn’t seem real, I keep expecting my phone to ring and for him to call with something silly. This week is going to be super hard as it would have been his birthday.
I’m struggling knowing he was probably alone when it happened, hate the idea of him at the funeral directors but even more dreading the funeral.
Keep talking and remember good times, it does help a little bit.
Remember we are all here for you x
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Thank you and my thoughts are with you too i feel I can completely relate to what you are saying
Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed too on the 7th September and the early days seem totally unreal and just numb. It does get easier but take week by week and allow yourself time, cry when you need too and smile always remembering him fit and healthy. My dad passed so suddenly and unexpected I agree it feels like you’re robbed. Take care, keep reaching out x
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It is so hard. I understand. My dad was poorly since February but we kept getting different information from the doctors so we had hope and then suddenly he took a turn and passed on the 12th July.
At first I think I was on autopilot and kept wondering why I wasn’t so upset but as time goes on it is getting worse daily but I suppose everyone deals differently with it. I just can’t grasp how I won’t ever see him again, I have so much to tell him. I was a proper daddy’s girl and we had/have such a strong bond.
Keep talking and don’t bottle it up, sending all my love x
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Thanks I think i am going to be on a similar course as you I had a few very bad days and now it’s not so bad but I feel its going to hit me hard in the next few weeks and months
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Sending everyone my sympathy. Grief is so hard…I lost both my parents last year , 11 months in between. I have a family and loving partner but am lost. Feel as if I will never be happy again…things just don’t feel the same . Thinking of everyone going through Grief together 
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That must have been incredibly tough for you last year, I’m sorry.
I lost my mum in 2012 and my dad on the 15th October, so nearly 2 weeks ago. It still doesn’t feel real. It’s my dad’s funeral tomorrow.
The thought of never being able to speak to or see my mum and dad again is completely overwhelming and I don’t really know what I’m meant to do going forward.
How can 2 weeks feel like forever?
I know the feeling. It’s been 3 weeks since my Dad passed and still 2 weeks til the funeral, I feel like I’m in limbo until then. Being at work sort of helps but it’s hard cos people don’t know what to say to you x