I lost my wife /girfriend on November 3rd 2021 'aged 53 she had been quite ill over the years with various diabetes related illnesses and always bounced back but not this time and my world has fell apart nearly 4 months in i feel worse some days than ever’I have had to go back to work for obvious monetary reasons but just about get through the day’I can’t see any light at end of the tunnel I just want to join her is this normal ?. She survived COVID and everything else 'I feel so cheated and miss her like it was only yesterday every day
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I’m 6 months into my journey and I don’t feel any better in fact someday I feel so depressed and tearful I just don’t get out of bed. Today is a bad day just crying 
all the time
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Yeh me to sobbing like a baby as I write 'photographs are supposed to be a comfort but they just wipe me out’haven’t even ventured near the wardrobe
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It’s 14 month for me and it’s so hard but always remember they loved us lv annie x
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I am the same. My darling wife passed away 8 weeks ago. Photos are a comfort but on some days they also just wipe me out. I have also gone back to work as l have bills to pay but l just get through the day l have no enthusiasm to work.
I have not even looked in her wardrobe or chest of drawers l just can’t bring myself to clear her things out as it would feel like l am wiping her away. I know it has got to be done at some time but l think that time is some way away.
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Trev, Annie and Paul
It’s 8 months on for me and I haven’t been able to touch his clothes- well that’s not quite true. I pick a t-shirt up or a jumper and smell it or just hold it close to try and feel he’s close by. Other than that, when I move house I’ll be taking his clothes with me. At some point in the future perhaps I’ll take some things to a charity shop but not yet. I’ll definitely be keeping some of his clothes forever. There are no rules about these things. I think we should each do what feels right. Sorry for everyone’s loss. Hope today is a good day for us all.
Love, Sophie x
Hits Sophie there’s no pressure take care big hugs annie lv x x
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Hi Sophie I know exactly where your coming from ‘I used to say to Liz for someone who’s says they’ve got no clothes there’s an awful lot in these 4 wardrobes’ like you say the smell on clothes unfortunately she had a family member who latched on to her perfume not long after she passed so might have to purchase one 
started back working from home today and my head was all over the place hope it’s gets easier 
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I work from home too at the moment and it would be easier if I didn’t. Not hearing his key turn in the front door during the day is still difficult, and if i hear the postman step up to the door my heart skips a beat, my brain telling me for nanosecond that its my lovely kind sweet man, and fervently wishing it was.
I know what you mean about fragrance- I need to buy a couple of his favourites just to keep him close.
I hope your day is not too taxing.
Sophie x
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Sophie go at your own
Hiya Sophie life will never be the same but we have to continue have 2 wonderful children and 2 fantastic granddaughter so what do I do me and my youngest granddaughter is 11 we are joined at the hip lv annie
Hiya you feel cheated when the love of your life passes it’s 15 month for me and I still struggle lv annie