My mum

Losing a parent
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Hi I am joined this group , as at the moment I feel so alone but reading all your posts makes me feel not so much .
My mum died mid Feb this year , started end of life start of Feb . I was so close to her , would call her everyday, update her on my life , help her with all her life admin tasks , medical appointments. I feel lost . I have some moments I am ok and then the next I am in floods of tears, today I feel really low , not in the mood for anything.
Losing a parent is so hard .
X

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Hello @Chelle5 ,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

You may also find this Sue Ryder article helpful. Take a read when you feel ready - Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi Chelle5
Just read your post and I thought I would say a quick hello. I am so sorry about your mum. My mum passed two years ago but I totally understand how you are feeling right now.
The pain is some I have never experienced before and I know what a difficult time you are going through.
Please keep posting on here as this site will help you do much .For me it was a lifesaver and I gained many friends and support from lots of people.
I don’t know what I would have done without it.
It is very early days for you and everything is raw right now. It’s time to take things slowly and set yourself small goals for each day. Try to eat and look after yourself as much as you can. Rest whenever you can. Don’t worry about sleep patterns . Sleep when you can.
Try to go outside for a short walk when you feel able to. Or even a walk in your garden just to get some fresh air. Distract yourself as much as possible. Cry when ever you need to. All the emotions will surface so just go with it all until you feel stronger.
I am sure more people will respond soon either more advice.
Thinking of you
Deborah x

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Thank you so much for your post , it’s feels ensuring that what I am feeling is “normal” in this situation as it can make you feel your the only one.

Yeh I have started to write down each day what I have done in a book and address it to mum as if I am talking to her .

Being outside does help and clears my head , the sunny weather helps too.

Thank you for taking the time to reply .

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Hi Chelle5,

Just checking in on you today to say hi. I am thinking of you.x
Deborah x

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Thank you for your message . I have been an emotional wreck this week , it’s mum birthday on the 15th so it’s like another build up to get over, myself and my sister are going to go out and celebrate the day for her .

Stil have to say to myself that’s it’s only 2 months today that we lost mum so still raw .

Hope you are well x

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I know exactly how ypu feel, i lost my mum pn the 8th march and miss her dearly. I have good days and bad.
Im struggling some days to be motivated, my family are supportive. But yet i still feel empty , i suppose gjis journey we are going through is diffetent for everyone, live your best life our mums would want us to do that.

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Excuse the spelling lol

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Hi Chelle5,
2 months is the raw time so take every day slowly.
Do something on your mum’s birthday even if it’s a tiny thing you do.
You are doing do well even if you think you are not.
Sending love

Deborah x

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