Hi , we are all grieving, I’ve not been on this site for a while, but what I have noticed is that we are very consumed with grief. My only son was a very fit and muscular 36 year old, but he had an undiagnosed brain tumour and died from siesure 2 years ago. Now the pain has never relented and I live my life from day to day. Friends by my gifts and say some lovely things but I’m totally oblivious to anything that happens. Nothing prepares you and nothing can take the pain away. We are all in the same boat as it were. There are no words to describe the pain
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Hi @Bluebird1 ,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
Hello fellow griever. You are right nothing is or can be the same. I cant give you any comfort although i want to. I want to say that you will feel comfort from the happy memories shared. That we should live our lives as our sons would want. To feel joy and to live so that they would be proud of us. Thats what i tell myself but, …living it is something else. Living it is harder than I imagined it to be. Now 3 years on, I still feel raw. I exist. I try.
Do what you can. Be your own kind voice. Forgive. Feel love, show kindness, and have a desire to make things feel better… I hope you have more good days than bad
Sending kind thoughts your way fellow griever 
xxx
Thank you for your kind thoughts and words
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I know people say it will get better but I don’t believe them. I tell Thomas’s brothers and his widow that he wants nothing more than for them to be happy but I can’t do that myself. I’m missing one of my three musketeers, the one that made everyone laugh and always caring about everyone else but himself. I hate this pain, it’s so raw ten months on and I never see it ending. I do think of how funny he was but it upsets me, we all miss that silliness.
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