I lost my husband my soulmate on new year’s day suddenly he was only 54. I am really struggling to cope with this and i’m terrified of the future without him
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband on 31st January It is a very scary time but there’s lots of folk here who understand and I find that helps
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thanks for replying i’m hoping i get some comfort from this group
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I’m really sorry for your loss, I lost my fiancé last month on 10th Feb. It’s such a lonely feeling. I have only been on this group for a couple of days but already it has brought some comfort being able to talk to people who have more of an understanding xx
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I lost my husbsnd very suddenly on 11th January. I wake up and think I am in a bad dream. Everyone tells me it is early days, but it seems so long since I have seen him. I panic when I think about the long term future, so I try not to. Am so sorry, but I do know exactly how you feel xx
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It’s a pain like no other isn’t it . My world feels empty and I long to be with him where ever he is. I wish i knew if he was ok and that I will be with him again . I’m hoping speaking to others that understand will help thanks for your reply
So sorry for your loss. I lost my lovely husband on 10th Feb 2025 he was 58. I am absolutely distraught in the mornings at the realisation of having to go through another day without him. We did everything together, i feel heartbroken, lost and scared without him.
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I totally understand how you feel. I walk around in a daze wishing he was here with me . I don’t know if I can survive without him . the thought I could be on this earth for a lot longer without him.
It’s pain without him it’s unbearable
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I think waking up in the mornings is the worst, the realisation kicks in. I just feel so exhausted. Once I have got up and had a shower I ferl a bit more human but I cannot concentrate on anything. I also wish I had a sign that he was ok and watching over us. I miss him so much, it will soon be our 33rd wedding anniversary. He was also my best friend .
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Mornings and going to an empty bed are the worst times for me . I miss him so much life is so empty without him. I have a good family but feel a burden to them because I am always crying and repetitive all the time . I feel so guilty about how he passed away i wish i could have done more to save him. I tried so hard I performed CPR for 18mins before the paramedics arrived but he passed as soon as he took his last breath in bed with me
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Bless you, you did all that you could. In my case we were walking down the road, I was chatting on as always, and he collapsed within sight of the house. My son got the car, while waiting for the ambulance we laid him across the front seat with passers by helping us. A passing nurse gave him CPR. The last thing he did was told me he loved me. We saw him taking his last breath while my son held his head. I can’t believe he could make toast for breakfast, and an hour later he was gone. It was actually a pulmonary embolism. I have 4 friends who lost their husbands in their 50s. I never thought it would be me. I really feel for you xxx
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Oh i’m so sorry for your loss too. i feel the same how come how was lying bed talking just before the new year then passed away within minutes. I’m a nurse so I think I could have done more to save him but I know it was his time . The pain is unbearable . I’m so glad he got to say he loved you . We didn’t get the chance to say good bye . I know he died quickly and pain free and happily with me
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My husband was in respite care because I hurt my back. I used to phone every morning He became very confused. The last time I spoke to him the conversation had really made very little sense As I went to ring off I said 'Love you lots and lots ’ and he said 'Love you too ’ Those were the last words he said to me and that is a comfort.
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Unless someone goes through this they will never know the pain and emptiness we are going through, I’m just finishing work now going home to an empty house 
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So true, nobody knows what it is like if they haven’t lost their partner. It’s more than half of you gone it really is your whole life and you are left not knowing how to go on alone. I too am a nurse and I have felt the same guilt thinking I should have done more. I should have known he had pancreatic cancer sooner, should have pushed for private treatment and not waited patiently in the queue and trusted or hoped. Diagnosed in feb 24 and dies may 24 at only 61, never been ill or in hospital before that. Still hurts 9 months on. Everything everyone is saying really resonates with me x
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Im so sorry for your loss, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer, he was 50.
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Hi Sandie I know exactly what you are going through I lost my wife Samantha on the 25th January from cancer she was 53, I miss her so much infact I’m crying now writing this, I hate that word CANCER, we are all on this horrible journey and I wish it on no one
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This bloody disease, its ruined alot of families.
How you doing today Spooner, I hope youve had a better day today.
I’m ok now thanks poppet I had a few tears earlier but I’m not to bad, cancer has ruined so many lives and unfortunately we can’t do anything about it, just soldier on like we are all doing on here, how are you doing today poppet hope everything is ok with you
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Ive had a cry, been to grief counselling this morning, don’t know if it helped but she let me get it all out.