My Sister

HI this is my first time on this site. I lost my last family memeber last year, My Sister. Both my parents died 10yrs ago, since them my eldest sister had been my world. She died 1 yr gao and I have only just realised than I must get help. I thought I would just work through it and eventually get over it, how wrong I was. I am married and have two beautiful children but my husband is at breaking point. I have felt low before but never like this. I just want to cry all the time and can not see any enjoyment in life anymore. Is there a way out of this

Hi im so sorry for your horrendous loss it’s utterly heartbreaking I hope you get some help on this forum there are some amazing people who have stopped me from joining my soulmate of seventeen years who fell asleep in my arms six months and three weeks ago tomorrow afternoon im utterly truamatised witnesing it all happen in front of my eyes I had hopes and dreams of growing old together everything my life has been stolen from me so cruelly and tragically every day is getting worse I have heard the online sue ryder counselling services are good cruse bereavement but waiting lists im still waiting for an appointment if not Samaritans is always there im sure you will get messages off more people in the forum im sorry I cant help more I’m really struggling it’s getting worse hourly your in my thoughts take care of yourself as much as possible Adele x

Hi Adele
Thank you for your lovely message. I just feel slightly better knowing that what I am feeling is normal. I realise that the loneliness I feel will never go away as it is the loss of her that nobody can replace. I hope you get through tomorrow and talking is the way forward

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Hi thankyou for your kind words means alot I hope the day Is kinder to you too nothing no one no words can ever replace the loss in our lives ever only we know that pain and agony in my thoughts take care Adele x

Dear Catherine1, I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my beloved sister a year ago this month. Her birthday was two days after she died. Both my parents are gone. Mom in 2012. My sister was also my best friend, and my world. I do not have a husband or children. I am blessed with good friends, but it is my sister I want. She understood me like no one else ever could. We shared all of our life ups & downs, laughed and cried together, and thought we’d grow old together. I have never felt such desperate loneliness. We seem to have a lot in common, and if I can help you in any way, I am here. I am glad you found this site. Please post again. You will find a lot of support on this forum. Take care, Sister2 Xxx

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Thank you so much for your message. I am also sorry for your loss. There is something special about your siblings which nobody can replace. My sister was so full of life and had lots to live for. She had previously fought her life back from Cancer and I thought she would do it again. But when she lost her battle for the final time I too felt that our life had been stolen from us. She was the only person that had the same childhood memories as me and the same plans for the future. It is very difficult to explain this to other people. I try to look to the future with my own family but it is tinged with sadness.