I feel so miserable - it’s unrelenting. My darling husband died nearly 16 months ago on our 37th Wedding Anniversary. I miss him so much. It doesn’t seem to get easier although people say it will. We didn’t have any children together but he did have a beautiful daughter from a previous marriage. Sadly she died in a road accident with her boyfriend early in our marriage. That united us even more. We were a team. I do have good friends and a lovely brother and sister in law who care about me. I know he would want me to make the best of life and I try. When alone at home I cry a lot and talk to him. I do count my blessings - primarily the 38 wonderful years and full lives we spent together.
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I understand your grief. It is a little over 1 month since my husband died. All I do is cry and it seems to be getting worse this pain. He died 2 days before his birthday. It is our 50th wedding anniversary Friday. I literally howl. We too had no children and this week none of my family are available to talk to as they are all on holiday. Tomorrow I have an occupational therapist coming in to see what adaptations I need to the house as I have mobility issues. I didn’t need them when he was alive.he was my carer. I cry so hard it is difficult to breathe sometimes. It is no real comfort to hear that even after many months I will feel the same. I am not sure about this forum as when I read about other people’s suffering it seems to set me off again.
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I agree - it must be of no comfort to hear of my terrible sadness 16 months on. It certainly wasn’t my intention to make anyone think there’s no hope of feeling any better. I hope you do better than me and remember everyone is different. I send you my support. I hope you get all the adaptations to your home you need.
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Thank you. My neighbour does give me hope. She went through this 7 years ago and now seems to have a happy fulfilling life. She has told me not to follow her initial lead where she started drinking at 9a.m. That is not me. If anything I have gone off alcohol. Used to have 1 glass of wine in the evening. I have had 1 bottle in the last six weeks. Trying to get up the courage to go to an event at the local community centre where they have a lunch with music every Tuesday. Even get free transport to it. I used to volunteer at the centre pre covid and the manager tells me it has helped another widow
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@Pudding sorry for your loss. I think you should try going to the community centre, there’s nothing to lose and perhaps something to gain. It’s 14 weeks for me since I lost my husband and I have a profound feeling of sadness & loneliness but it is slightly better than the early days/weeks. I don’t have so many meltdowns and outwardly people would think I’m ok. We just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other and hope we feel a bit better with time. Sending hugs.
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Hi pudding i agree with Jan get yourself there if you dont enjoy dont have to go again but you might well enjoy good luck xxx
Thank god for a good friend. She texted and asked if I was ok. When I said no she came over and took me out for a ride in the car. Only went for some wool and some bread at a lovely bakers nearby but it has made all the difference. I will take your advice and try the centre. Can’t be next week as I have gardener, window cleaner and chiropodist all next week. Will also mean I eat a decent meal once a week as it comes with a 2 course lunch all for £10. Have hairdresser coming tomorrow. Hopefully haircut will make me feel better.
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Just received a bouquet of flowers from my bank. Rang them about a scam call and told them account was in process of change due to bereavement and young man said he would send flowers from the bank. Must admit I forgot about it.
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No … dont give up… it does get a bit better - u can be more composed … but it is still hard do not gonna lie. Just day af a time for u for now xx
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