Hi I’m new here I lost my dad in January been recommended this site … it’s 9 months in and I’m struggling I feel the longer it’s getting the more I’m struggling my dad was our world after losing my mum at a young age so he was my home my safe place my best friend now I feeling so lost he needed care over the last 10 years I was a caregiver for him as well as my brothers and community carers but he’s was still himself and fought so much over them years he always came back to us if he had a hospital stay it’s was a shock to lose him in January… I have days where it’s all I think of and miss him so I struggle to get out of bed other times I get up do what I need to do and quietly miss him …losing my mom was so difficult but this just feels so so much worse……
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad ji and best friend. I’ve recently lost my mum, my best friend. There is no pain like it. Like you, some days I don’t want to get up and start the other day and other times I do the necessary whilst feeling empty inside. It early days for me and I think I’m in denial that the time without her will inevitably increase. I’m trying to take it minute by minute and day by day but I’m only in my 40s and that could be quite a long time.
Hi. I’m so sorry for your loss. 
I too lost my mum first, though I was an adult when it happened, and I wouldn’t have coped then without my dad. Now that I’ve lost him it’s even worse, because he was my rock when she passed. So I understand. It’s hellish, it really is. It’s almost two years for me and I’m still struggling. Sending hugs. 
Oh I’m sorry to hear about your loss too it really is so difficult I’m dreading Xmas and new year as he passed early January so I know now every new year will be just crushing without him …. I don’t know about you but I still can’t believe he’s actually gone …. Thank you for replying x
That’s all you can do is take it day by day how ever long it takes I am not rushing this grief as I loved my dad so much and I’m just lost without him thank you for replying x
25 yrs for me next month and I miss him terribly sending you much love 
I would rather skip Christmas. There are so many reminders and triggers and it’s really hard to avoid all the Christmas ads. I don’t know how I got through the first one, but apparently I did, so it’s possible. But yes, it is heartbreaking. 
I’m the same, it seems unbelievable, too huge to grasp or understand. It makes no sense that they can be gone, just like that.