My heart shares the same pain. God bless
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We are all the same, not sure if that helps any of us.
Ive lost 2 stone that i cant really afford to loose im now 8 stone 6 so below BMI, but i have no appetite.
Im our in the motorhome doing the route we have done so many times before but every evening in Cotswolds people, couples are laughing, eating, drinking, holding hands… it seems unfair. Even though the food smell great walking past, ive no appetite at all, not eaten since Tuesday.
I miss my beautiful wife so very much at times I cant breathe
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I am so very sorry, John, but you are being very positive in what you are doing to make your wife proud. It takes a lot of effort under these sad circumstances to accomplish what you have done … planted all those bulbs and driven your motorhome to South Wales.
I understand only too well how you feel, it’s eight months since I lost my wonderful husband, and I cry every day and feel utterly lost without him. The intenseness of my grief is often overpowering but I struggle on because that is what he would want me to do.
Please try and eat, my appetite is very poor but I do eat something. To have not eaten since Tuesday is very bad for you and will lead to health issues.
I know that you probably won’t want to, but I think it’s worth you having a word with your GP.
Take care.
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Whane, it’s extremely hard but you will get through it if you want to, most people on here are in the same boat as you in that we have all lost the one we love. You will always have your memories and they are precious to you and you will never forget her in anyway, she will be looking down on you wishing you to enjoy the rest of your life. Please try and find a hobby or something that you enjoy and try to take your mind off the situation. Take care my friend Bob
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It’s very hard but we need to try and be strong.
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I am so sorry for your loss.my second husband died of Pancreatic Cancer.he was only 63 years in November 22.he was only diagnosed 6 weeks earlier.The Hospital here in North West London kept missing it.its a cruel form of Cancer.he literally dissappeared in front of me.& he was a big healthy bloke.l was told just keep it in the day.this site has been a Life saver for me.just keep posting on here no matter how you feel.as people here really understand.Sending you love xxx
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I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died 5 months ago and I agree I feel like it’s getting worse and the ache and pain feel’s unbearable. I am 51and it was such a shock. I get up I go to work I put my fake smile on and come home. That’s it. I just feel like every day is a step closer to him. I really hope it gets a little easier for all of us.
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I agree, it now seems to come in huge waves, like a tsunami! People seem to think that I’m doing amazingly well but at home I’m a mess. It’s 7 months for me and although not the same as at the beginning, where it was very raw, I do feel that I’m going through another phase of adjustment. Hang in there and remember people are always here to be used as a sounding board.
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I thought I was doing quite well until the last few days, which saw we thinking what’s the point of carrying on. I would never contemplate suicide, but I can why some people feel that’s the only way out.
Thats such a stupid way to think, we had three wonderful children and now have 8 grandchildren, which has to give you something to live for.
I suppose the waves of grief are sometimes greater than others.
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Bad days just keep rolling in, still waiting for some good days. I wake up every day thinking not another day, I’ve gone from having a family of 4 at home to been here all alone it’s so hard to live with.
Both my sons have recently moved out and then to lose my Julie 11 weeks ago, my life really has gone from been happy to an unimaginable miserable existence.
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Ahhhh I too feel every fay is a day closer to meeting again
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@Wayne2 it is still such early days for you. Don’t put pressure on yourself, just do whatever gets you through the day. I’m 24 weeks on this journey and there are some better days. I decided it was sink or swim so I made a conscious effort to swim. It’s really not easy but it’s what my husband would want me to do so I’m trying. I am starting to find new interests and make some sort of life, although, It’s not the one I wanted or planned. Hang in there and know that there will be better days to come.
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I totally agree with the last persons thoughts.
I am fairly sure that our partners would want us to try and live a happy life, whilst of course keeping their memory in our hearts, until we are once again together.
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I just can’t get the feeling out my head my husband would want me with him x I wish I knew life is so cruel
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I am sure that he would want you to be happy until you are with him again.
One of my major regrets is that my wife Maureen whilst ill with cancer, passed away unexpected and we never had time to declare our undying love for each other. All our partners know that they were and are still loved. I was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks after my wife, which adds a whole extra level of guilt that I am still here. Why was I cured and not her? I talk to her all the time and will continue to do so,
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John your doung really well your wife passed two weeks before my husband…sunset for him was 31st july after 8 weeks off aggressive cancer it was all very quick for him and the pain is awful i cant even begin to start putting pictures together like you she will b so proud off what youve achieved its all so sad and tragic kev was 67 and next week 27th sept we will have been together 40 years is crazy and like you no one has been in the lounge as it was rhe family place…keep strong
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I firmly believe that & it gives me peace.knowing every day is a Day closer to seening him again.but we still have to carry on with Our Lives as its not our time yet & we do get better days.just hang on in there. XXX
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