I am definitely not coping with the loss of my lovely husband. He died abroad and I had to fly home with his ashes. Been home nearly 2 weeks now and it’s just horrible. I cry all the time and my heart hurts. Spoke to my GP but he had nothing to offer. I have no family and only a few distant friends. I don’t know how to get through this alone.
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I am so sorry you are alone at this awful time when you need support and advice for those around you. It’s going to be a long exhausting journey before you feel a bit like your old self. It’s been nearly 3 years for me and I still have dark days but this post is not about me it’s how you are feeling and I can assure you, you are not alone. There will be people on the site that completely resonate with how you are feeling and I am sure you will get support and advice from here. It’s very early days and your emotions will be all over the place.
Star strong 
Georgina
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Thank you. I will just have to take it a day at a time and hope for the best!
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One step at a time (not even a day - just a step). Concentrate on that step. When you look back, you’ll experience the loss, pain and depression. When you look ahead you’ll get frightened and anxious. Just look at that one step and when you falter (which we all do) just come back to that step. 
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Thank you that at least sounds possible.
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I am so sorry for your loss and the problems you have had because he died abroad My husband also died abroad and he was buried there and I couldn’t attend the funeral You have my deepest sympathy thinking of you Be patient look after yourself thing will slowly improve for U but it takes time adjust to life alone
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MaryS You are not alone. We may all be virtual strangers on here, but we are all here to help and support each other. My wife passed away 5 years ago I often read and very occasionally post when things start getting on top of me. There is always someone to talk to on here
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Im sorry for the loss of your husband. One thing is sure, everyone here is being emotionally battered.
We are all walking shells of our former selves and its hard to imagine how we arecall going to cope with this horrendous grief.
Its only been two months since my wife died, after a long illness. We were able to talk about the future. My beautiful wife was worried about me eventually being on my own and it gave her greatest wish was that i would find happiness again. I promised her that i would and this gave her comfort.
It feels like im having to learn to walk again and that is what i think we all must do, one step at a time.
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I am taking it 1 day at a time because thats all i can feel i can do at the min i completely understand where you are coming from it must be so much harder for you because it was abroad but loss is loss we are here for you just take your time breathe and take it step by step much love xx
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I’m so sorry about your loss. It will get less painful in time. For the first few months I relied on diazepam to help get through the day. This site is helpful as everyone is feeling similar pain
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Im sorry for your loss. It is just over 2 months since i lost my husband. It is a case of taking each day as it comes. Do what you feel you need to. Everyone grieves in a different way.
For me, some days i feel ok so i try to do something, get out in the garden or go for a walk. There are other days when sonething silly will reduce me to tears and i dont want to to anything, so i dont.
Remember you are among friends here. We are all here for the same reason. You can always post, some one will reply. Take your time, it does get less painful.
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It is so very hard and I think the worst thing that has happened to me. Everyone says it takes time but time is just not going quick enough.
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So very sorry it almost hurts too much to be true. My husband also died whilst we were on holiday. I had a nightmare experience, nobody spoke English. After he had passed I had to organise everything. It took three weeks before he was even flown home. We have had the funeral but not the internment due to the cemetery being flooded. Do try to talk with him, l know it is so hard. Everyone tries to understand but when you have been with a certain someone nobody can really help. Put you thoughts down and we could perhaps help each other. Reading so many of these letters, it has helped me a little.
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