One year on

It’s been just over a year since my wonderful husband Alan left us and I’ve struggled more recently. Lots of folk say the first year is the hardest but I feel that isn’t the case as you spend the first year dealing with all the firsts of everything. In doing so, it becomes a focus but then I suddenly felt after Alan’s anniversary, that I had to now think about rebuilding my life, a life I’d not ever wanted to think of and that feels much harder.I hope everyone on this forum are well, it’s been the worst of years with Covid which doesn’t help and trying to keep putting one foot in front of the other can be an uphill battle. I wondered if anyone else had similar experiences. Best regards Julie


Hi very sorry your on this site and the lost of your husband l am 59 my husband was 64 when died of cancer I feel the same seems to hit you more when everything is sorted like you it seems to be one step forward and 10 back. I don’t know the answers regarding our life’s without them. Myself I keep busy or try to then some days have to make myself to something lockdown does not help. I wish I had the answers xx

Hi Kim, thank you so much for your kind message. I was 58 and Alan was three days off his 65th birthday so very similar for us both. Thank you for sharing, there aren’t answers I just wondered if others felt the same. I’m very lucky, I work full time and have family so my days are always taken up and that’s what’s got me through so far. Life will pan out over time, it’s just this phase again. Take care, Julie

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