Does anyone else find a meal with a group of people overwhelming? I met a group of ex work colleagues today for lunch as someone was retiring. Found it really hard as they were all discussing holiday plans & complaining about their husbands. I left as soon as I could after the meal.
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Hello Chrisb6, so sorry you felt so uncomfortable in the group setting, I myself have not wanted to even go out. I know what you mean , I wouldn’t want to hear about anyone’s plans, either, . There is a wedding this weekend, a family member getting married, from my husband’s side of the family. Of course I am not attending, but I hope those that are from out of town, don’t decide to pay me a visit. I don’t want to chit chat, or hear about the wedding. Am I bitter? Maybe a little, but oh well. I miss my husband, take care
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I’d do the same. We are looking for some people to talk to and spend some time with and sometimes it harms more than helps. It’s a Memorial weekend here, all the neighbors have families to spend a weekend with. I have no one here in a foreign country, except a few friends that was so hard to find, but they are with their families right now too. I felt anxiety among people that I don’t like tonight, because they are not close to me at all, but anxiety is the biggest issue each and every morning and I stopped counting them, because it has been more than 1 year. I find this anxiety to be worse than the horrible pain itself. I can live with a pain, but fighting with anxiety every time I open my eyes is unbearable…
Janka
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Morning @Chrisb6
I have been to a few talking tables recently, where everyone been discussing their holidays plans . I found it really difficult to listen to ,The holiday I had planned this year , I had to cancel. Hope the day goes as best as it can for you . These long weekends are hard to get through. 
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Morning, yes it’s hard listening to people’s plans. I also had to cancel a holiday, we would’ve been there last week. Hope you have a peaceful day too.
Im going to a christening today ..its just hard putting a brave face on and im really not interested in what they are upto .
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I feel exactly the same. I didn’t like them before, and now I absolutely hate them. Sometimes people seem to want me to justify why I turn down invitations. I used to try to give them a justification, but now I just say I don’t like them, but if they would like to join me in a one to one dinner, I’d love to do that.
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That sounds exactly like me. I only went yesterday because someone pushed me by saying it would be good for me. I think I need to stop putting myself into these type of meals. Like you I find one to one much easier.
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It really is, I feel for you having to go through it.
That also gets me into a mixture of anger and sadness.
I feel like giving such people a good shake and a wallop, telling them “Be grateful to God that you still have each other!”
May God bless and comfort you!
Kind regards - Joe
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Thank you Joe, yes I thought the same, they don’t know how lucky they are.
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Hello Janka, so sorry to hear what you are going through, being alone, . Where do you live? I live in California, I do have a close family and have helped me a lot in the beginning, I have 2 children and 2 grandchildren who are my world. But I still feel alone, I need my husband, he was everything to me, my best friend, soul mate, my confidant, my true love, now I just feel empty 
no one can replace that, . My beautiful daughter takes me out, and I love her for it, but wherever I go im thinking 
would my husband like this place, like the food ….would we be judging people together 
…. Sorry my responses are always all over the place. I guess what im trying to say is that even if you have family, you still need that one person that was taken from you 
God bless
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You can have loads of people around you and still feel lonely xx
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Dear Lucy,
Those wonderful words you wrote about your beloved husband reflect exactly my feelings for my beloved wife.
She’s just everything for me, our love is, just like yours, indescribably deep and strong.
Your husband is watching out for you from Heaven just like my beloved Fanny is watching out for me.
Every day I pray for Fanny, asking God to bless her and to convey my infinitely strong, eternal love to her.
In the end we will be reunited forever with our loved ones in Heaven.
Kind regards - Joe
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I live in Arizona, close to you… I miss my best friends. They have been in my life for decades, even at a distance after 6 years nothing has changed between us. They are closer to me than my own family, most of them already died. Our husbands are irreplaceable, that’s for sure. Me and him are enrolled for the Masses till the rest of my life, because I want to be sure that heaven is the only place where we’ll be together forever. I’ve also ordered a Mass for me in June, because I’ll have to make the most important decision about my existence soon. This is my beloved home, my garden, animals, my fairy land full of love and memories… My friends here always tell me that my most beloved husband is always with me, but I need his presence the way it used to be, that’s why it’s so upsetting when I see the couples around me and they take it all for granted and in a minute that all can be gone., My faith is what keeps me going on. I was thinking to start reading my books from Raymond A. Moody-Life after life and others written by him. There are experiences of people who saw their loved ones which had died and they were even able to feel their real hugs the way they had been while being alive. It can give me a comfort, I’ve read them all many times… It has been a year and I miss my love even more than before. His shoes are still waiting at the door, I dance with his clothes the way we were dancing before, I kiss his hand gloves and pillows and talk to him nonstop, How would I live if I don’t have this comfort? He is my everything forever…
Janka
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Hello. Good evening, Arizona you do live close by, . Everything you’ve said i fully understand . I can feel how much you still miss your husband, there is no replacing them , we will miss our husbands for the rest of our lives. I’ll hafta look into those books, thank you for that information. I also still keep keep my husband’s personal items around, I’ll never get rid of them, they give me comfort. Take care and may God bless you.
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Same thing for me, I’m also keeping Fanny’s personal items.
I will only give some things to close family members like my daughter-in-law or my granddaughter.
Later my granddaughter will also get Fanny’s purses 
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Fanny keeps the one purse she’s currently using on a chair close to the door and I’m leaving it there, it’s another memorial to my beloved wife.
May God bless you all and take good care of yourselves!
Kind regards - Joe
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I like the chair. We also have such old style made of wood. It’s beautiful and heavy.
Janka
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