A couple of months ago my mother-in-law to be passed away very suddenly, its been a massive shock to the family, and supporting my partner through her grief has been my priority, but recently my own health has taken a strange turn. I think the sudden nature and inconclusive findings have triggered severe health anxiety in me, this past week I’ve had a panic attack pretty much every day. Every time I get a twinge in any part of my body I get this rush over my body and I honestly feel like I’m dying. This past week I’ve been genuinely convinced I’m having a stroke, I have cancer, I’m having a heart attack etc…something different every time.
Even reading though these bereavement threads have triggered anxiety in me, reading posts of people losing family members suddenly. It’s so hard because I feel I cant even discuss bereavement with other people without it triggering a panic attack. It’s getting so debilitating
I just wanted to know if anyone had experienced anything similar and if they found something that helps, I am seeing my GP next week and hoping they up my citalopram and possibly add in some propranolol. This anxiety is making me ill.
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your partners mum and how you are feeling, that is so sad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
You may also find the following Sue Ryder resources helpful:
- Our Bereavement information pages
- Our Online Bereavement Support, which includes our free online bereavement counselling which is held via video chat, our Grief Guide which has interactive tools to help you cope with grief, and Grief Coach, where you can receive personalised support via text
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Morning sorry for loss . It is extremely difficult. Yes I have been suffering with panic attacks and anxiety.
The same as you a small twinge and it makes things worse . Be honest with the Doctor I got some advice and started meditation.
It really helped to calm things down , I knew things where bad when I was walking around the garden at 3.30am trying to relieve the signs .
I must admit I started when I lost my dad back in December 2019 he went out in the countryside and never came home . Just about got my feelings and anxiety under control , when I lost my mum this year whilst we were away for dads anniversary in Norfolk. She died in January.
So all the feelings and anxiety came flooding back .So I am back on tablets , signed up to this and reached out for people and support .
It helps . We are all in the same boat and people understand how you are feeling.
Unlike family and friends that are there the first few weeks and months and slowly they stop . Or don’t even bother at all as they have no idea what to say to you .
I know how you are feeling I lost my wife last Sunday its just num xc
Hello Ron ,
I am sorry to hear you lost your wife . Grief is a natural thing , but by god it really hurts . React out and speak to people on here . We all understand how you are feeling. Numb , sad , angry , tears and more tears .
Had your wife been poorly ? Just do a little at a time . Small steps there is no time frame on how you should be feeling I’m 11 months down the line of losing my mum . Good and bad days
I was nursing her for the last nine months she had severe copd but had a massive stoke xx